Take a Few Minutes to Hear This Beautiful Song by Marvin Sapp

I wanted to share this song with anyone who may need to hear it. You're going through things and it seems like there is no ending to it. You often wonder when will it stop, I've suffered enough? Just know that God has His hands on you. This song gave me strength and reasoning to not give up or give in. Marvin Sapp, I thank you.
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Thanks for stopping by. I hope you received something from this song as I did.

Tinzley Bradford


 

How Can You Get Closer To Your Destiny?

This is a question many people ask themselves all the time, this is something that I'm almost certain everyone wants to know how to do. We are all here for a purpose, but what is it? " How can we get closer to our destiny?" I've been looking for ways to find out just what I'm supposed to be doing and how to do it. I have put together a few tips on ways that may help you get closer to your destiny.

1.I have come to the conclusion that finding your true meaning is not being afraid to take risks. You have this vision that only you see and know in your heart will work if only you were given a chance. Sometimes instead of waiting to be given a chance, you have to take a chance. You may not end up exactly where you want to, but you'll be headed in the right direction. Swim with fish, not seaweed.

2. Don't let lack of support or belief from others hold you back from your destiny. Sometimes we are our own biggest fans and may be the only ones who truly believe in our dreams; you know what, “There is nothing more beautiful than knowing your value." Someday everyone will, don't quit. It’s a mighty long walk, especially when you're trying to walk backwards.

3. Being too stuck in your ways and not allowing other likeminded people to suggest ideas that may benefit you both. I think the biggest mistake people make is thinking they can do everything alone. Its okay to believe in yourself, but never think for a minute you won't need other peoples help along the way. The main person you're dodging could end up being the one who gives you the deal. Don't ever burn your bridges...

4. Do a bit of what you love everyday even if it's just a simple idea that you write down on a sheet of paper, or maybe a new contact you met online you decided to reach out to, it could be a simple encouraging post on your blog, face book or twitter page that motivates you and others, or even just a thought that crosses your mind. Do something each day that you love and you know will lift you up mentally. 

5. Finally, don't spend too much time on negative thoughts or in negative conversations. Notice I said "don't spend too much time." I say this because it's just human nature to think negative at times, but don't allow it to upstage your true meaning in life. Get it out and be done with then move on. You have much to do like continue to reach your true destiny ; and trust me talking negative time after time again will not get you to that place. I have been learning this myself and at the end of the day there is just no room for it in my life. Meditate and listen to what God is trying to tell you, you know He doesn't have anything negative to say.

"Each time you make a decision to move toward the life you say you want, you are doing your most important spiritual work. I call these daily choices your 'holy moments.'"

—  Oprah

Everyday I work to get better at what I do. Everyday I strive to be a better person, forgive me if I make mistakes for I am only human. Everyday I pray for an answer that just makes sense. Everyday I get that much closer to my destiny.

Thanks for stopping by, I hope you were able to take something helpful away at the very least; think of ways to get to that place of destiny.

Tinzley Bradford

You Are The Head Not The Tail....

You are the head not the tail

Today I want to spread some love to all those special people who just need to hear something nice including me. Today I would like everyone to spread the love!

I'd like to hug that lonely child who misses her mom and wishes dad would just show up while she sits lonely in foster care dreaming of a different life. It's okay to dream sweetie, and know you are never alone as long as you just believe things will get better; then they will. This hugs for you. You are the head not the tail, you are a leader.

This blessing wish is for that family who just can't seems to make ends meet. You're not making much money and the bills just keep on coming. It's hard for lots of people we all embrace you and pray for victory.I pray right now for a blessing that will get you right where you need to be, I pray for overcoming adversity and in Jesus name a miracle for you and your family. This too shall pass.

This is for that teenager who's left feeling like an outcast just for being different. For all the names they call you, for all the cruel jokes that play on you for all the harm they attempt to do to you, and for all of those who are trying to break you. I love you and wish I could just give you a hug right now. No body said life would be easy but if only they knew how hard it truly is for some of us, they would learn to love more. This hugs for you. You are in my prayers.

This is for that smart intelligent person who has a vision but no one  believes in you. People  try to down play your gifts making you feel like a loser. I pray for a break to come to you when you need it most yet never expected it. I pray that you have the strength to make it through and the ability to fight and stand firm in what your vision is and stay true to yourself. I believe in you so don't give up! Take this big warm embrace you are more than a conquer, .

Listen, life is a funny thing. There will be good times and there will be bad times. I encourage you to keep your eye on the prize to never ever let anyone tell you that you can't and to stick with it, even if you're doing it for free. When you're doing what you love someday the right people will notice and it will be just a matter of time. Just remember whenever you're in a position to help others, you should do it. Blessings come in disguise. You are the head not the tail, keep your head up!

Tinzley Bradford

Happy Just Makes Sense.....

Are you happy? How do you know if you are? What are you doing if you aren't? With all the things to worry about in today's world like troubled relationships, not feeling valued, not making ends meet,  being single but wanting love, feeling like evil people are plotting against you, feeling as if no one’s on your side and the list goes on and on. There are tons of things that could make a person no longer have that "glow" that everyone often notices they usually have.

Stop it I say stop it! I've been doing some soul searching; I wanted to see if all the worry and fret over things we have no control over was even worth it. I spent one day doing nothing but thinking about how things hadn't gone the way I'd wished,  I thought about people who I thought were in a position to help and how they turned their backs on me and I never saw it coming, I worried about what others were thinking, ( totally not me ) I thought about everything negative that could come to mind. By the end of the day, I was nervous, worried, anxious, couldn't think or speak clearly, wasn't myself and even felt like others hated me. I realized I had become very tired, exhausted and sad. (Not a good feeling)

The very next day I decided to start my day off with happy thoughts, I met with some of my dear friends, told jokes like old times, spent the entire day on an outing with them, laughed, embraced, talked to God, didn't worry or stress, didn't allow the enemy to win, I reflected on all the good people in my life who I know love and care for me, all the good things that have happened to me. By the end of the day, I was singing Yolanda Adams "Be Blessed."

It felt good being happy, knowing God has my back, knowing my true friends would never let me sink nor would they plot evil things behind my back, knowing that my family was rooting for me and supporting anything I decided to do, knowing that I'm loved. I realized that people can be cruel and just plain unhappy with themselves so therefore, they don't want others to be happy so they try to block their blessings. Don't worry it's not you, it's them. If you know your heart and you know God knows your heart then stand firm in your word and don't let them break you. You will be just fine. In a world where it's easy to just give up, give in and be sad; I choose joy because at the end of the day "Happy Just Makes Since."

Don't let them break you

Today's motivation is, never let anyone break you no matter what! When you love something so much and you're passionate about it just keep on doing it no matter what; someday it will pay off! There will be those who envy you, there will be those who wish you'd fail, and there will be those who will try to make you fail; but don't let them steal your ambition ever. Nobody ever said the road would be easy, but I know God hasn't brought me this far to leave me. Hang in there anyone who maybe going through this right this very moment! You are more than a conquer. You are the head and not the tail. You will make it through! Just believe!

Tinzley Bradford

Making Time for the Things That Matter

Yesterday I realized something that I'm certain is nothing new. People have become more concerned with their smart phones and the "cool" stuff they can do with them, than having a good conversation with the people around them, at that very moment. I was in my car and noticed that everyone was on their mobile device doing something at the same exact time. It felt very lonely, very lonely. I then realized that had I not been driving, I too would have probably been on my mobile device as well. I mean it appears that what used to be a fun and energetic environment of people sharing, talking, laughing and simply engaging with each other, seems to have turned into a game of double dutch ( try to get in when and if you can.)

Now I'm not preaching against smart phones, dumb phones, big phones or small phones, but what I am preaching against is the continued distance these devices can cause amongst family and friends many times without us even noticing it. We are simply not talking anymore, we are not bonding anymore, we are distracted with things that really don't even matter. Are we becoming robots? Are we only responding when data is entered into our data base? You say, "So what's going on with you, how did you like the cheesecake I gave you?" While totally engaged with their mobile device they say," Huh? Oh ummm, everyone is going to where blue to the picnic." After several attempts of trying to converse, you realize you're fighting in a war that you obviously aren't going to win, technology. "The Smart Phone." I mean it is pretty stiff competition, it's colorful and attractive, it's has all kind of cool things to do, apps to download, friends to connect with, ( even though you're there in person) noise it makes when playing a game just plain fun. And you, well you're just a dry boring person who is at this very moment hindering me from downloading this cool new app and I just missed out on responding back to a direct message on twitter because you wanted to know what flavor ice cream I wanted. OMG We're at the ice cream parlor for crying out loud!!! Put the phone down!!!

Well I know I won't be able to even start to compete against this very robust tool that seems to be taking over, but I will say my experience has made me want to focus on what matters most, my friends and my family. I can also say if it's not strictly business, must we be engaged in the smart phone every freaking minute of the day? Have we become so dependent on what a bunch of people in cyberspace are saying or doing that we no longer care or are interested in the people who are right beside us wanting to talk to us at that very moment?  I thought about this real hard and decided , I want my family back, I want to see more than the top of my daughters head while she's texting or face-booking or tweeting on her smart phone. I want to laugh with my best friend more and not feel like I'm just talking to myself and only being responded to in order to keep the peace. I too will no longer be all engaged in this device, I will set time aside to work on my blogs, twitter, and face book posts especially when I'm with friends and family. Why do I say this? Well if anything, I mean anything happened to any of the people who matter most in my life, I want to at least be able to remember our last conversation and all the fun we may have had and not have memories of them trying to chat while I chose to tweet. Make time for the things that matter, it' feels good to see your loved ones eyes again.

In her article "Why I deleted twitter from my phone, Alice Gregory gives you more to think about check it out http://www.businessinsider.com/why-i-deleted-twitter-from-my-phone-2010-7

Check out this article on protecting your smart device by Lee Allen with the Tucson Business because we do spend a lot of time putting our personal business on them http://www.azbiz.com/articles/2010/01/15/media_technology/tech_talk/doc4b4f5975df260163539228.txt

Now I'm not saying I plan to delete my apps, but I am saying I plan to not let my apps control me or keep me away from my loved ones. 


Tinzley Bradford

Today I Will Adjust my Sails, I Love Life!

One of my favorite quotes, "The pessimist complains about the wind, the optimist expects it to change; the leader adjusts the sails." ~John Maxwell

What do you do when you are dealing with a very sensitive, self absorbed, manipulative, sneaky and very condescending person who doesn't feel they are any of the things I just mentioned?  You change the way you deal with them, that's what you do. I'm done complaining about this person who seems to whine their way into not being ousted and seems to play "victim" quite well. You know that type who seems to think no one likes them, no one respects them and no one wants to "play" anymore?  It's all good as long as people are walking around with fake smiles and constantly placating to this persons needs and wants with no questions, but the moment that stops and this person is expected to actually hold a real conversation that requires them to think and involves more than " What kind of shoes they chose to wear and why they chose them, or how cute your eye makeup is today, here we go with the victim role. Give me a break! You're not dealing with a kid whose upset because you took their ice cream, you're dealing with adult people who have lives and families and who just want to be treated fairly.

Another favorite quote, "You really realize just how important someone else can be when you're no longer the star of your own life." — Clint Black, country singer.

I'm noticing that this person is the star of their own life and it's never them it's always other people who just for some reason suddenly stopped  "liking them." Just out of the blue, just like that, they didn't entice it they are simply being, " victimized." I have decided that my family, my real friends, my daughter and all the people who matter in my life are who I will pay most attention to. I will no longer allow this person in my personal space only to turn around and be deceived. I will feed this person with a very long handle spoon, but make sure I smile while I do it. I will continue to work hard in life towards achieving my goals and the right people who matter will someday take notice. I know that only God has the answers to many of our questions and I just have to trust in Him. Today I am adjusting my sails! I suggest you try adjusting yours, because only you can make "YOU" happy! Have a wonderful day and remember to make those changes so that you can keep your joy!

Tinzley B

It's Time to Live, Today I Choose to Enjoy Life as it is Right Now

 I place my hands on life today and it belongs to me.

How do you push through all the clutter in your life? How do you remain composed and focused despite obvious chaos that surrounds you? How can you really embrace life and truly enjoy it? I mean there are things you want to do but you can't. Places you want to go but you're not able to. People you'd like to meet but that has yet to happen. then you may feel you're currently doing something you used to love, but now you despise because of your environment. How do you deal with that?

I am learning to just be happy with what I have, and where I am. To be happy with those already around me who I love and care for and who love and care for me,and cherish every single moment with them. To know that it's okay to dream and strive for what you want in life, but to be content with what you have right now and where you are right this very moment. I have toned it down in my life, I get excited but I'm not as anxious like I used to be, sometimes anxiety can cause much stress in your life, because you're constantly trying to go go go and do do do to and prove prove prove the point where you forget to live live live and enjoy life as it is right this very minute.

Today I'm embracing life and all the great things is has to offer me right this very moment. I'm going to smile and continue to spread life into others, even when I may not feel like it I know I must do it, just to keep me going. Today I'm ignoring the negative and only focusing on the positive. I know that blessings come in all shapes, sizes, and forms and today I will recognize them all no matter how big or how small. I will look at my life and ask myself just how bad is it? Once I realize it's not bad at all and that I'm loved by many, I will smile and say wow I'm blessed!

Today it won't matter if that person who usually speaks doesn't, maybe they didn't see me this time or maybe they were distracted. It won't matter if I'm overwhelmed at times, I mean who doesn't get overwhelmed at times? Today I will take it slow and focus on it with the right energy, the same energy that allows me to love and embrace others. Today I will know that those who have wronged me no matter who they are will someday realize it and try to make it right, but I won't worry over it just as long as I treat people with love, kindness, and genuineness. I won't have to prove anything because I know my worth and so do they.






Tinzley Bradford
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Talk About Doing Good Things (Oprah Gets It )

I recently read an article about Oprah Winfrey and how she gave each person on her staff $10,000 an ipod and and ipad. I look at that as just a beautiful thing and the fact that she didn't have to do it makes it even more beautiful. I know in this world, material things aren't all that matters. I know that the idea of just plan giving is enough no matter how big or small. I know that there are people who wish they could give but can't. I also know there are people who can give, but don't. A few things I know for sure that we can all give. Love, understanding, appreciation, acceptance, a listening ear, a helping hand, and the gift of a smile.

I often ask how does Oprah do it? How does she want to just give that much of her money away? I then watch her re-runs from my "Oprah's 20th Anniversary" collection and realized, Oprah has a gift and her gift is the ability to love people, a gift that each of us love to receive.

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And make sure you do something good today.

Tinzley Bradford

Embracing Hospice song title, "Indeed"

 This song is dedicated to all those who make a difference in the lives of others each and everyday. Myself and a colleague wrote this song while doing volunteer work for Embracing Hospice. A final resting place for the terminally ill. We performed it at one of their annual meetings to thank them and remind them that each and everyday, they embrace hope in someone who may have felt all hope was gone.  At the end of the song, one of my colleagues performs a song by Pastor Marvin Winans, "I need you to survive."


Singing the song I wrote with the Embracing Hospice singers

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So Love Does Conquer All, Today I chose joy over pain and it worked.

Today I decided to not say one word about something that's been on my mind for the last three days. I received some news and it wasn't the news I wanted to hear. So I started to linger on the issue a bit. I began to get more and more angry thinking to myself, I have to confront this. I wanted to tell everyone about this and make "certain people" look pretty darn bad. I vented to my best friend, my mother, my sister, even my daughter and they all understood my frustrations and could see why I felt so cheated. But they all said one thing that was very similar,  " Tinzley, your day is coming!" Yeah Yeah Yeah I thought to myself.

I mean how can you play by all the rules and do it with ease, yet it not even seem to matter? How can someone lift you up and in the blink of an eye tear you down? How can all you do and have done not matter? How can you even look at me? I wanted to gossip, I wanted to confront, I wanted to judge and compare others to me, I wanted to get smart, I wanted to be a complete monster,I wanted answers and I wanted them NOW!

Then something happened, each day I prayed and realized my own value, my own worth, all I have accomplished, my ability to connect with people, my ability to not need other peoples approval to define me, my ability to know that everyone doesn't have to like me or be impressed by me for me to feel good about myself. My loyalty, my love for others, my confidence without anyone having to tell me I'm awesome. I thought about how far I'd come, all the great relationships I've formed along the way, all the people whose lives I've impacted along the way. My bright smile, my warm heart, my passion for service. And the list could go on for days.

I realized that each day I felt a little better, the news wasn't so hard to bear after all. I thought about what truly motives me and it's not how many people approve, or like me. It's not how many people nominate me or select me, no what motivates me is Love despite of, love even when I'm angry, love even when I'm sad, love when I don't feel like it, love when it doesn't seem to make since.

Today I felt like a new person and I told a few people how much I appreciate them. I over looked the negative and focused on the positive. I realized just how great things are as they are and how things will happen for me,just as they should. I realized that love conquers all. Now I don't have any energy left to gossip, confront, be mean, or display anger. I just allowed my joy to out way my pain and I feel great!

I know there will be disappointments in our lives and it's okay to mourn. It's okay to feel sad and feel hurt, you're only human and you have feelings. But try resting your anger for a few days, just let it be yours and no one else's. It's okay to vent, but only to those you trust. You will begin to notice it's not worth the argument, it's not unbearable, and mostly, it's not the end of the world. Put your anger on timeout, and then it will gradually begin to time out.

Tinzley Bradford

There are ways to not let "it" become you. Embrace the differences in others.

What do you do when you've done all you can, when you've given your all, when you've worked extra hard, yet still you seem to feel this tension? Well, you just keep doing all you can, giving your all and working extra hard. Chances are, the person making you feel tense, could be going through the same thing you are, or worse. (people are strange little beings)

Today I didn't allow that to bother me, I held my head up high, kept a smile on my face, and did a heck of a job. I used to let the vibes I picked up from others interfere with the way I was feeling. I didn't understand why or how a person one day could smile, treat you like a jewel, and make you feel special. Then the next day look at you like you stole something, barely speak and make you feel like crap? I finally realized after taking it personally one too many times, that people are different. Many of them have other things going on that they may not know how to hide or handle, therefore they tend to show their emotions towards whoever steps in front of them next. Even if you've done nothing but an awesome job the entire time they've known you. Just be thankful you don't have burdens you wear everyday.

I later realized that, I have to continue to be proud of myself and know my value no matter what someone else may try to do to make me feel less than a person. I have to know that the differences in others is what makes them unique and it's not always my job to get them told, or show them a thing or two; it's my job to embrace what I have no control over. To love even when I don't feel it back, to smile even when I feel like crying, to share nice thoughts even when I may want to curse someone out, and to embrace the differences of others, even when I want to cut them off.

This makes a difference in your balance, your mental stability and your joy. If you weigh yourself down with other peoples burdens, you'll never see above solid ground. The good I see in this is, being the loving, caring, kind person you always are may very much be what others need.

Let "your" light shine!

Tinzley Bradford

Today I smiled and laughed when I really felt like crying....

Today was a tough day for me. I received some news that was kind of disheartening and left me feeling blank and empty. I mean it was good news for the person, but wow did it hurt. I sat there and joked and laughed and continued to try to make the issue seem to not have had an impact on me, but it did.

The good I see in this is, I smiled and made my dear friend feel happy even when I felt like breaking down and crying. I made him smile and let him know he's still cool with me, even though my heart was crushed and my feelings were hurt. I cracked jokes to calm the room from tension even though I felt over looked and unappreciated. Even now, there are tears in my eyes as I write this, there is a pain in my heart as I cross each  t and dot each i. I ask myself, "what do I gotta do?" Yet I still have no answers for myself.

It's tough being strong for someone else, just so they won't feel the pinch of tension and frustration while their trying to enjoy "their" moment.They say,"never let em see you sweat." If only they could see me now. Maybe I'm too sensitive or maybe, just maybe, I'm just human.

"There's hope, it doesn't cost a thing to smile, and you don't have to pay to laugh. You better thank God for that." ( Arie 2008 )

Tinzley Bradford

Doing good only gets better....

Today while I was at work on my way from lunch, I looked back and noticed a guy heading my way with a fully loaded cart of something I'm assuming he needed. I looked at him and asked, " Are you coming this way?" He replied, " Yes." I held the door so he could get in with out such a struggle and possibly dropping something. He thanked me and asked me if I like chocolate. "Of coarse" I said yes. He gave me a candy bar pre-packaged with what ever organization he works with on the label. I looked at him, smiled, accepted the candy bar and asked, "Who are you?" I know I hadn't seen him before. He told me his name, we shook hands and he walked off.

For a few minutes we made a connection, one I'm certain he won't forget and neither will I. When I noticed the organization he works with, it brought tears to my eyes, for I knew this was a strong, kind, loving yet dedicated man. Glad I had the pleasure to meet him.

The other day, I told a woman her hair was beautiful....

While I was on my way in Walmart, I was greeted by an older woman who was working the door as a greeter. I had a return to make so she stopped me and asked to tag my bag. Usually I would have gotten irritated because I know I don't steal, so why does my bag need to be tagged?  I'd just witnessed someone ahead of me being not so nice, and treating this lady like she was a nobody. I could see this lady looked to be at retirement age, trying to make ends meet. The look on her face and the energy she gave was that of someone afraid and not knowing where they stood in life. Not to mention the person ahead of me who'd just snatched a bag back from her and stormed off without even saying thank you. I could tell this woman was hurt by that, and God only knows how many people had been treating her that way all day long.

What if she was a grandmother who'd recently taken custody of her grandchildren for what ever reason? What if her husband, soul mate, and only person she had to support her recently fell sick and they can't afford the medical expenses, so she has to go back to work? What if she just lost everything she had in her retirement ( remember Enron?) and now she had to go back to work?

All she wants is to do her job and do it well. All she wants is to service customers the way she was trained.All she needs is to be loved.I thought can I be that someone she needs, just for the moment?

I looked her in her eyes as she scanned my bag, smiled and said,"your hair is beautiful and fits you well!" Her face lit up and she smiled back and began to tell me how much easier it is to manage. It was salt and pepper and was cut in the prettiest style. She handed my bag back, smiled and told me the service desk was straight down to my left. I said "Thank You!"


Tinzley Bradford

Today I Left Nice Comments on Someones Blog

I was surfing Oprah.com and came across a blog titled, " I'm pregnant and he wants out of his responsibilities." I could tell the poster was a scared, lost confused and hurt individual. I could feel her fear, sadness, frustrations, and feelings of deception through her tone. I could also feel her need for someone to not judge her, but to understand her if only just for that moment. She was married, had an affair with a married man and she got pregnant with twins. Suddenly, he no longer loves her and has decided to stay with his wife, even though he said he would leave his wife for her.

This is a tough one, but what I had to do is take a nice long look at the issue and not pass judgment on this poor, sad, lonely, woman who was just looking to be loved; I had to look at what's right instead of who's right. I know I have wanted to be loved too and God only knows the things I've done just to feel loved. I left a comment that I thought would sort of guide her through this issue, I included it below. I went to work this morning feeling like I made a difference. I didn't even know this woman, but I felt for her. I went to work feeling like I knew she was better, and she now knows there are still nice people out there who truly care and  understand. I never seen her a day in my life, but I feel like we made a connection, which will last a life time.

What good thing did you do today? I'd love to know, please post in the comments section so we can talk about it. Thank you for visiting.

Tinzley Bradford


This was the link: http://www.oprah.com/community/thread/124989