How Can You Get Closer To Your Destiny?

This is a question many people ask themselves all the time, this is something that I'm almost certain everyone wants to know how to do. We are all here for a purpose, but what is it? " How can we get closer to our destiny?" I've been looking for ways to find out just what I'm supposed to be doing and how to do it. I have put together a few tips on ways that may help you get closer to your destiny.

1.I have come to the conclusion that finding your true meaning is not being afraid to take risks. You have this vision that only you see and know in your heart will work if only you were given a chance. Sometimes instead of waiting to be given a chance, you have to take a chance. You may not end up exactly where you want to, but you'll be headed in the right direction. Swim with fish, not seaweed.

2. Don't let lack of support or belief from others hold you back from your destiny. Sometimes we are our own biggest fans and may be the only ones who truly believe in our dreams; you know what, “There is nothing more beautiful than knowing your value." Someday everyone will, don't quit. It’s a mighty long walk, especially when you're trying to walk backwards.

3. Being too stuck in your ways and not allowing other likeminded people to suggest ideas that may benefit you both. I think the biggest mistake people make is thinking they can do everything alone. Its okay to believe in yourself, but never think for a minute you won't need other peoples help along the way. The main person you're dodging could end up being the one who gives you the deal. Don't ever burn your bridges...

4. Do a bit of what you love everyday even if it's just a simple idea that you write down on a sheet of paper, or maybe a new contact you met online you decided to reach out to, it could be a simple encouraging post on your blog, face book or twitter page that motivates you and others, or even just a thought that crosses your mind. Do something each day that you love and you know will lift you up mentally. 

5. Finally, don't spend too much time on negative thoughts or in negative conversations. Notice I said "don't spend too much time." I say this because it's just human nature to think negative at times, but don't allow it to upstage your true meaning in life. Get it out and be done with then move on. You have much to do like continue to reach your true destiny ; and trust me talking negative time after time again will not get you to that place. I have been learning this myself and at the end of the day there is just no room for it in my life. Meditate and listen to what God is trying to tell you, you know He doesn't have anything negative to say.

"Each time you make a decision to move toward the life you say you want, you are doing your most important spiritual work. I call these daily choices your 'holy moments.'"

—  Oprah

Everyday I work to get better at what I do. Everyday I strive to be a better person, forgive me if I make mistakes for I am only human. Everyday I pray for an answer that just makes sense. Everyday I get that much closer to my destiny.

Thanks for stopping by, I hope you were able to take something helpful away at the very least; think of ways to get to that place of destiny.

Tinzley Bradford

Happy Just Makes Sense.....

Are you happy? How do you know if you are? What are you doing if you aren't? With all the things to worry about in today's world like troubled relationships, not feeling valued, not making ends meet,  being single but wanting love, feeling like evil people are plotting against you, feeling as if no one’s on your side and the list goes on and on. There are tons of things that could make a person no longer have that "glow" that everyone often notices they usually have.

Stop it I say stop it! I've been doing some soul searching; I wanted to see if all the worry and fret over things we have no control over was even worth it. I spent one day doing nothing but thinking about how things hadn't gone the way I'd wished,  I thought about people who I thought were in a position to help and how they turned their backs on me and I never saw it coming, I worried about what others were thinking, ( totally not me ) I thought about everything negative that could come to mind. By the end of the day, I was nervous, worried, anxious, couldn't think or speak clearly, wasn't myself and even felt like others hated me. I realized I had become very tired, exhausted and sad. (Not a good feeling)

The very next day I decided to start my day off with happy thoughts, I met with some of my dear friends, told jokes like old times, spent the entire day on an outing with them, laughed, embraced, talked to God, didn't worry or stress, didn't allow the enemy to win, I reflected on all the good people in my life who I know love and care for me, all the good things that have happened to me. By the end of the day, I was singing Yolanda Adams "Be Blessed."

It felt good being happy, knowing God has my back, knowing my true friends would never let me sink nor would they plot evil things behind my back, knowing that my family was rooting for me and supporting anything I decided to do, knowing that I'm loved. I realized that people can be cruel and just plain unhappy with themselves so therefore, they don't want others to be happy so they try to block their blessings. Don't worry it's not you, it's them. If you know your heart and you know God knows your heart then stand firm in your word and don't let them break you. You will be just fine. In a world where it's easy to just give up, give in and be sad; I choose joy because at the end of the day "Happy Just Makes Since."

Don't let them break you

Today's motivation is, never let anyone break you no matter what! When you love something so much and you're passionate about it just keep on doing it no matter what; someday it will pay off! There will be those who envy you, there will be those who wish you'd fail, and there will be those who will try to make you fail; but don't let them steal your ambition ever. Nobody ever said the road would be easy, but I know God hasn't brought me this far to leave me. Hang in there anyone who maybe going through this right this very moment! You are more than a conquer. You are the head and not the tail. You will make it through! Just believe!

Tinzley Bradford

I let an elderly couple get the parking spot

I'd been circling around for about a good seven minutes in hope of finding a parking spot close to the entrance of the mall. Not because I'm lazy, but because it was so hot that the closer to the entrance, the less time in the sun. Whew!

Finally, I spotted one just a few feet away from the entrance. I noticed a car backing out and I was positioned next to get the spot when suddenly, I saw an elderly couple pull up with a signal on indicating they too were after the spot. They then saw me there first and I could tell they really wanted the spot, but tried to respect me for being there first.

I've always had a soft spot for the elderly and just love to see them happy. I kindly gestured for them to go ahead. In my mind I'm like, well looks like I'll just have to be hot. I noticed his face lit up as he waved excitedly as if to say," Wow, people still care in this world?"  His sweet heart sitting patiently beside him nearly broke her neck to honor me for giving them the spot. I smiled and waved as I past what was suppose to be my spot. I ended up parking very far away, then I realized it wasn't so bad after all and at the same time, I'd made things easier on someone else. Felt good!

I know my blessings come from how I treat others and selfless acts of kindness. How horrible would it have been if I'd dashed into the spot forcing them to have to circle around in hopes of finding a closer spot themselves?We have got to look a little deeper at our actions and think with our hearts a little bit more, spread a bit of love to even strangers. It makes a world of difference.

I went inside to discover the shirt I wanted which was originally $29.00, had been marked down and additional 25% off; left me paying a low $13.00. I know it was part of my reward for doing a bit of something good. Even if it wasn't, you can't beat the feeling of knowing you have Gods favor and the day only got better.  Do something good today it will make you smile and it will make a difference. Have a good day, thanks for stopping by.

Tinzley Bradford

The Art of Confidence (my views)

I have come to realize that in today's world and probably yesterdays world too, one must have confidence in themselves and their abilities. There is so much you can do that you probably don't even know about. When you have confidence in yourself, there is a bit of an art to it. You can't be arrogant, you shouldn't be cocky, you should just know your worth and have the ability to sell that worth to others. ( Shouldn't be hard to do )

Ask yourself, what are you good at? What are you passionate about? What do you want to do? Why do you want to do it? What are you driven or motivated by? Then take all these questions, answer them and pull from there. This is the art of confidence. According to Websters, confidence means "assurance: freedom from doubt; belief in yourself and your abilities." How do you gain and keep it? 

1.Well first you must empower yourself to have it. Tell your self there's nothing you can't do, but be realistic of coarse. If you can't do a back bend, a head stand, ending in a split, I don't suggest you attempt to or tell people that you can. That wouldn't be confidence, that would just be stupidity. (Not to mention the doctors bill you would accrue behind such an attempt!) What I mean is just having a can do, go get it, upbeat spirit, that is displayed in your demeanor. That's confidence.


2. Show your abilities through actions. Have you ever met that person who just talks, talks, and talks more about how great they are at something and how they can do this and that if just given a chance; yet you have seen no physical proof?  Well it's nice to feel this way, but what actions have you taken to show this ability? It doesn't just have to be in your work place. What about things you do outside of your job that everyone has the ability to see and possibly remember you for those talents? If you talk the game, allow people to see how well you play it.

3.Do your homework. What have other confident, successful, and smart people done that lead them to their big break? I tell people all the time, do a  Google, Bing, Yahoo, Ask Jeeves, whatever search, and ask questions about your interest and you can get a slew of very helpful answers.  For example, if I want to know more about marketing myself or my product, I wouldn't just go next door and ask my neighbor. I would do an online search about ways this can be done. This allows you to gather as much information as you can and builds your confidence in finding ways to do it.


4. Don't let the stumbling blocks make you lose it. Life will happen, there will be disappointments and people may not believe in you no matter how well you have proven yourself. This can be very disheartening I know first hand, but the good thing is YOU know you can do this! ( where's that confidence?) Don't let feelings of failure and let down  cause you to lose your confidence. I tell people all the time," If you don't get it in the washing, get it in the rinsing." I don't know who to quote for that; but I swear by it. Trust me the right people who matter will see you; just find a different way or approach to what you're doing and keep on doing it anyway. Just because they  didn't select or choose you doesn't mean someone else won't see your value. It will pay off, keep confidence alive! 

5. Finally, Surround yourself with like minded people who get it. If you want to learn more about writing or social media, hanging around people passionate about nothing more than eating and sleeping probably won't keep you inspired. Hook up with and begin to mingle more with people who write or who are social media geeks, with a loyal following and a pretty descent track record to show for it. Ask questions, collaborate with them, and just have fun being involved and around what you love.Sooner or later you will begin to see a bit of a buzz and a demand for you and what you're doing.  This plays a huge part in building your confidence and most of all keeping it.

Confidence is like a fine piece of art sitting over your mantle, while it may have the ability to bring you wealth; the beauty of it is priceless! (Tinzley) 

I included a link to some other great confidence blogs on "Net Worked Blogs about confidence" take a visit, very nice sights   http://www.networkedblogs.com/topic/Confidence/


Tinzley Bradford

Today make it about you.. Work on you when needed.

How are ya feeling these days? Are you feeling fresh and renewed or overwhelmed with no clue? If you chose the latter you may need to seek ways to make "yourself" feel better. There are many reasons people feel overwhelmed and there are many ways to tone things down a bit in your life, that you may not feel have been causing this feeling. I have put together a few things that may cause one to be overwhelmed and a few ways to alleviate the feeling.

1.Wanting everyone to like you and doing way too much to try to make them. This causes stress and unnecessary worry in your own life. Expecting a certain reaction when you do or say something and when you don't get it, you sit and wonder if that person likes you or not. You then try other things and ways to make them appear to like you. This is ridiculous to me. There is a lot you could be doing with all your positive energy that doesn't include trying to be a "people pleaser." Try smiling, treating the person nice, but not stressing yourself out for their approval. What it all boils down to is, "everyone's not meant to be your friend!" Embrace the loyal, positive, fun ones you have and leave the dry ones thirsty for attention. Trust me, once they see you aren't as active with them,they will then try to do things to bond with you. Then maybe they will began to like you on their own.

2.Taking on more than you can handle, and knowing it. Are you that "yes" person who just doesn't know how to say no or maybe without feeling you've let someone down? I used to be that person, but not anymore. If you want to appear on top of everything to the point you take on everything, eventually the stress will catch up with you and you will crash and burn. Can I say be productive, but keep it balanced in your life? Don't worry if you can't get to it, someone will. Even though you may be excellent at what you do, you are not captain savior and there is only so much you should truly say you can do. Even with friends, if you usually come to events and this time you can't make it or don't feel like it, just say it.This gives you time to change your mind should you decide to go anyway, instead of feeling obligated to go because you promised weeks ago. Then your appearance will be a pleasant surprise. And you can say "I" decided to come, had a little extra time.

3.If you're happy great,if you're not happy find things to brighten your day. Walking around trying to fake it can become a huge burden on your shoulders. If you are miserable you can only hide it so long before the horns start to pop up and you find yourself snapping on that person at work who only asked you where the printer paper is kept. People don't think this really works, but breathing in and out really slow can relieve tension. Breath in through your nose and out through your mouth. Go ahead try it! Hmmmm feels good doesn't it? Try meditating on what you feel maybe making you unhappy and work on it. If it's money problems ask a friend for a loan, you'll be surprised how many people are willing to jump in for a friend in need, even if you didn't want to have to ask. Go stand outside and just look at the trees as they wave at you, look at the sky and how pretty it is. Smile and think of good things you have done for someone. What ever you do find out the source of your misery and work towards healing. You will be surprised at how many therapist and experts have blogs and articles that fit issues that may cause unhappiness. Google search and read your way to self improvement. Trust me, this will make you happy.


4.Saying things you don't really mean. If you say something mean it. If not you will then have to explain why you said it in the first place. Example, if someone asks you if you like key lime pie and you say yes it's good. Then two days later they show up all excited with a fresh key lime pie for you and you say," Nice, but I don't really care for key lime pie." How do you explain that? How do you think that would make someone feel, even you? Say what you mean and mean what you say.

The good I see in this is making positive change in not only your life, but others as well. When you feel well, everyone you come in contact with has a better chance of feeling well too.There are many things that cause unhappiness or misery that you can control, you just have to start doing it. I would share more, but I have to get ready for work. Besides, I don't need the stress of being late for no real reason. Good day and I hope this article sheds some light. Thanks for visiting.

Tinzley Bradford

Do something good, tell someone something nice today.

Have you ever felt that you don't know where you stand or where you should stand? You felt uncertain of what your next steps are or what your next steps should be. You didn't know if your best was good enough or simply not enough.  Like you have drive that's faster than the average person and at times too fast for even you to keep up with?

If so what do you do about it? How do you approach or handle it? Let me tell you what I did today.
Today I told someone how creative, talented and awesome they are. I did this because they are and because they needed to hear it. I notice many times people may feel they are doing good, but just don't quite know for sure. ( And barely hear it from the "right people.")The olden days of doing good, working hard, and being recognized for the outstanding job has changed a little. These days you must toot your own horn every now and then just to let other people know, you are confident, dependable, and knowledgeable at what you do, that's why you're still doing it. And doing it well!

People are afraid to speak highly of themselves which is understandable, they don't want to come across as a bragger; so why not do it for them?

I told this person the kind words because it made me feel good to make them feel good. I think when you share kind words, they will come back to you ten fold. It's funny because the moment I told the person these things, a heavy weight just lifted off my shoulders and I could think, breath, and see clearly. I could tell what I said made this persons day and for the remainder of the day,I could hear the energy and confidence through their voice. They felt like they could take on the world. They felt like there was nothing they couldn't do. They felt like they should always feel.

 Do something good, tell someone something nice today.

Tinzley Bradford

Doing good only gets better....

Today while I was at work on my way from lunch, I looked back and noticed a guy heading my way with a fully loaded cart of something I'm assuming he needed. I looked at him and asked, " Are you coming this way?" He replied, " Yes." I held the door so he could get in with out such a struggle and possibly dropping something. He thanked me and asked me if I like chocolate. "Of coarse" I said yes. He gave me a candy bar pre-packaged with what ever organization he works with on the label. I looked at him, smiled, accepted the candy bar and asked, "Who are you?" I know I hadn't seen him before. He told me his name, we shook hands and he walked off.

For a few minutes we made a connection, one I'm certain he won't forget and neither will I. When I noticed the organization he works with, it brought tears to my eyes, for I knew this was a strong, kind, loving yet dedicated man. Glad I had the pleasure to meet him.

The other day, I told a woman her hair was beautiful....

While I was on my way in Walmart, I was greeted by an older woman who was working the door as a greeter. I had a return to make so she stopped me and asked to tag my bag. Usually I would have gotten irritated because I know I don't steal, so why does my bag need to be tagged?  I'd just witnessed someone ahead of me being not so nice, and treating this lady like she was a nobody. I could see this lady looked to be at retirement age, trying to make ends meet. The look on her face and the energy she gave was that of someone afraid and not knowing where they stood in life. Not to mention the person ahead of me who'd just snatched a bag back from her and stormed off without even saying thank you. I could tell this woman was hurt by that, and God only knows how many people had been treating her that way all day long.

What if she was a grandmother who'd recently taken custody of her grandchildren for what ever reason? What if her husband, soul mate, and only person she had to support her recently fell sick and they can't afford the medical expenses, so she has to go back to work? What if she just lost everything she had in her retirement ( remember Enron?) and now she had to go back to work?

All she wants is to do her job and do it well. All she wants is to service customers the way she was trained.All she needs is to be loved.I thought can I be that someone she needs, just for the moment?

I looked her in her eyes as she scanned my bag, smiled and said,"your hair is beautiful and fits you well!" Her face lit up and she smiled back and began to tell me how much easier it is to manage. It was salt and pepper and was cut in the prettiest style. She handed my bag back, smiled and told me the service desk was straight down to my left. I said "Thank You!"


Tinzley Bradford

Yesterday I gave money to a lady who asked.....

Yesterday while I was shopping, a lady asked me if I had a dollar I could spare so she could have enough to pay for her groceries. I gave her four dollars. I didn't even know her name or her story, I just knew she was a person in need. I know it's a gift to have enough love in your heart to  not judge her because she's in the grocery store with out enough money, but to love her and give from your heart. I wish I could have paid for all her groceries.

Tinzley bradford

Today I reached out to old friends and co-workers I haven't spoken to in a long time.

It was nice connecting with old friends and co-workers, some I haven't seen or spoken to in years. They were just as warm as they always have been, which shows distance doesn't mean a thing when the bond you have is sincere. People will always show you love when you step back into the scene.

I strongly encourage anyone to just reach out to someone no matter how long it's been and get caught up, tell them they were just on your mind, or just send them a nice note. I tell you, love goes a long way and showing it no matter how little or big,can mean the world to someone. There are times when people may be going through some things and at times don't have the time or the energy to stay in touch, that's where you come in.
Make someone's day, reach out and make a difference in someones life, you never know; you may be just what they need.

Tinzley Bradford