I let an elderly couple get the parking spot

I'd been circling around for about a good seven minutes in hope of finding a parking spot close to the entrance of the mall. Not because I'm lazy, but because it was so hot that the closer to the entrance, the less time in the sun. Whew!

Finally, I spotted one just a few feet away from the entrance. I noticed a car backing out and I was positioned next to get the spot when suddenly, I saw an elderly couple pull up with a signal on indicating they too were after the spot. They then saw me there first and I could tell they really wanted the spot, but tried to respect me for being there first.

I've always had a soft spot for the elderly and just love to see them happy. I kindly gestured for them to go ahead. In my mind I'm like, well looks like I'll just have to be hot. I noticed his face lit up as he waved excitedly as if to say," Wow, people still care in this world?"  His sweet heart sitting patiently beside him nearly broke her neck to honor me for giving them the spot. I smiled and waved as I past what was suppose to be my spot. I ended up parking very far away, then I realized it wasn't so bad after all and at the same time, I'd made things easier on someone else. Felt good!

I know my blessings come from how I treat others and selfless acts of kindness. How horrible would it have been if I'd dashed into the spot forcing them to have to circle around in hopes of finding a closer spot themselves?We have got to look a little deeper at our actions and think with our hearts a little bit more, spread a bit of love to even strangers. It makes a world of difference.

I went inside to discover the shirt I wanted which was originally $29.00, had been marked down and additional 25% off; left me paying a low $13.00. I know it was part of my reward for doing a bit of something good. Even if it wasn't, you can't beat the feeling of knowing you have Gods favor and the day only got better.  Do something good today it will make you smile and it will make a difference. Have a good day, thanks for stopping by.

Tinzley Bradford

The Art of Confidence (my views)

I have come to realize that in today's world and probably yesterdays world too, one must have confidence in themselves and their abilities. There is so much you can do that you probably don't even know about. When you have confidence in yourself, there is a bit of an art to it. You can't be arrogant, you shouldn't be cocky, you should just know your worth and have the ability to sell that worth to others. ( Shouldn't be hard to do )

Ask yourself, what are you good at? What are you passionate about? What do you want to do? Why do you want to do it? What are you driven or motivated by? Then take all these questions, answer them and pull from there. This is the art of confidence. According to Websters, confidence means "assurance: freedom from doubt; belief in yourself and your abilities." How do you gain and keep it? 

1.Well first you must empower yourself to have it. Tell your self there's nothing you can't do, but be realistic of coarse. If you can't do a back bend, a head stand, ending in a split, I don't suggest you attempt to or tell people that you can. That wouldn't be confidence, that would just be stupidity. (Not to mention the doctors bill you would accrue behind such an attempt!) What I mean is just having a can do, go get it, upbeat spirit, that is displayed in your demeanor. That's confidence.


2. Show your abilities through actions. Have you ever met that person who just talks, talks, and talks more about how great they are at something and how they can do this and that if just given a chance; yet you have seen no physical proof?  Well it's nice to feel this way, but what actions have you taken to show this ability? It doesn't just have to be in your work place. What about things you do outside of your job that everyone has the ability to see and possibly remember you for those talents? If you talk the game, allow people to see how well you play it.

3.Do your homework. What have other confident, successful, and smart people done that lead them to their big break? I tell people all the time, do a  Google, Bing, Yahoo, Ask Jeeves, whatever search, and ask questions about your interest and you can get a slew of very helpful answers.  For example, if I want to know more about marketing myself or my product, I wouldn't just go next door and ask my neighbor. I would do an online search about ways this can be done. This allows you to gather as much information as you can and builds your confidence in finding ways to do it.


4. Don't let the stumbling blocks make you lose it. Life will happen, there will be disappointments and people may not believe in you no matter how well you have proven yourself. This can be very disheartening I know first hand, but the good thing is YOU know you can do this! ( where's that confidence?) Don't let feelings of failure and let down  cause you to lose your confidence. I tell people all the time," If you don't get it in the washing, get it in the rinsing." I don't know who to quote for that; but I swear by it. Trust me the right people who matter will see you; just find a different way or approach to what you're doing and keep on doing it anyway. Just because they  didn't select or choose you doesn't mean someone else won't see your value. It will pay off, keep confidence alive! 

5. Finally, Surround yourself with like minded people who get it. If you want to learn more about writing or social media, hanging around people passionate about nothing more than eating and sleeping probably won't keep you inspired. Hook up with and begin to mingle more with people who write or who are social media geeks, with a loyal following and a pretty descent track record to show for it. Ask questions, collaborate with them, and just have fun being involved and around what you love.Sooner or later you will begin to see a bit of a buzz and a demand for you and what you're doing.  This plays a huge part in building your confidence and most of all keeping it.

Confidence is like a fine piece of art sitting over your mantle, while it may have the ability to bring you wealth; the beauty of it is priceless! (Tinzley) 

I included a link to some other great confidence blogs on "Net Worked Blogs about confidence" take a visit, very nice sights   http://www.networkedblogs.com/topic/Confidence/


Tinzley Bradford

Today I Will Adjust my Sails, I Love Life!

One of my favorite quotes, "The pessimist complains about the wind, the optimist expects it to change; the leader adjusts the sails." ~John Maxwell

What do you do when you are dealing with a very sensitive, self absorbed, manipulative, sneaky and very condescending person who doesn't feel they are any of the things I just mentioned?  You change the way you deal with them, that's what you do. I'm done complaining about this person who seems to whine their way into not being ousted and seems to play "victim" quite well. You know that type who seems to think no one likes them, no one respects them and no one wants to "play" anymore?  It's all good as long as people are walking around with fake smiles and constantly placating to this persons needs and wants with no questions, but the moment that stops and this person is expected to actually hold a real conversation that requires them to think and involves more than " What kind of shoes they chose to wear and why they chose them, or how cute your eye makeup is today, here we go with the victim role. Give me a break! You're not dealing with a kid whose upset because you took their ice cream, you're dealing with adult people who have lives and families and who just want to be treated fairly.

Another favorite quote, "You really realize just how important someone else can be when you're no longer the star of your own life." — Clint Black, country singer.

I'm noticing that this person is the star of their own life and it's never them it's always other people who just for some reason suddenly stopped  "liking them." Just out of the blue, just like that, they didn't entice it they are simply being, " victimized." I have decided that my family, my real friends, my daughter and all the people who matter in my life are who I will pay most attention to. I will no longer allow this person in my personal space only to turn around and be deceived. I will feed this person with a very long handle spoon, but make sure I smile while I do it. I will continue to work hard in life towards achieving my goals and the right people who matter will someday take notice. I know that only God has the answers to many of our questions and I just have to trust in Him. Today I am adjusting my sails! I suggest you try adjusting yours, because only you can make "YOU" happy! Have a wonderful day and remember to make those changes so that you can keep your joy!

Tinzley B

It's Time to Live, Today I Choose to Enjoy Life as it is Right Now

 I place my hands on life today and it belongs to me.

How do you push through all the clutter in your life? How do you remain composed and focused despite obvious chaos that surrounds you? How can you really embrace life and truly enjoy it? I mean there are things you want to do but you can't. Places you want to go but you're not able to. People you'd like to meet but that has yet to happen. then you may feel you're currently doing something you used to love, but now you despise because of your environment. How do you deal with that?

I am learning to just be happy with what I have, and where I am. To be happy with those already around me who I love and care for and who love and care for me,and cherish every single moment with them. To know that it's okay to dream and strive for what you want in life, but to be content with what you have right now and where you are right this very moment. I have toned it down in my life, I get excited but I'm not as anxious like I used to be, sometimes anxiety can cause much stress in your life, because you're constantly trying to go go go and do do do to and prove prove prove the point where you forget to live live live and enjoy life as it is right this very minute.

Today I'm embracing life and all the great things is has to offer me right this very moment. I'm going to smile and continue to spread life into others, even when I may not feel like it I know I must do it, just to keep me going. Today I'm ignoring the negative and only focusing on the positive. I know that blessings come in all shapes, sizes, and forms and today I will recognize them all no matter how big or how small. I will look at my life and ask myself just how bad is it? Once I realize it's not bad at all and that I'm loved by many, I will smile and say wow I'm blessed!

Today it won't matter if that person who usually speaks doesn't, maybe they didn't see me this time or maybe they were distracted. It won't matter if I'm overwhelmed at times, I mean who doesn't get overwhelmed at times? Today I will take it slow and focus on it with the right energy, the same energy that allows me to love and embrace others. Today I will know that those who have wronged me no matter who they are will someday realize it and try to make it right, but I won't worry over it just as long as I treat people with love, kindness, and genuineness. I won't have to prove anything because I know my worth and so do they.






Tinzley Bradford
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