Why do we suffer? Does it really make us Stronger...Remember Job?

I sit today thinking about everything that's going wrong. Wondering why bad things happen to good people? Wondering when my breakthrough will come? I'm questioning why and how people can be so cruel?  If only they could truly see me for who I am, they would know I’m a good person. Why is this happening, I serve God and do what’s right? Yes I question a lot of things. Then I remember Job and how God allowed even him, one of His most dedicated servants to lose everything he had including his family. I remembered how Job suffered with Leprosy a terrible disease. I think about the faith Job had even while dealing with all of this. I can only imagine what this must have felt like and question how could Job still be so accepting of all of this? How did he not complain and become angry even to those who loved him and simply wanted to help? Job believed that just as the Lord gives, he too taketh away. Because of his faith in God despite of all the bad things that happened to him, God gave him even more in return.

I now get it! I realize that what God has already done is enough. If He doesn't do anything else for me, He's already done enough. I am blessed, I have food to eat and didn't go hungry, I am working even in a struggling economy, I have a place to live and call home and a wonderful loving family who'd do anything for me. I have terrific friends who love me. I know that even through the mist of the storm, I have just what I need. So just because I didn't get what I wanted when I wanted, God has a plan for my life. He has a plan for yours too just have faith in Him. Stay strong and don't complain anymore, I know it will be tough because we are all human and we feel the need to vent which is perfectly fine, but just don't allow your circumstances to dominate who you are and what you are destined to be.

Today, tell someone that everything is going to be okay. Look them in their eyes and let them know you really care about them. Be a blessing to them and continue to believe and trust in God even when the going gets tough. He knows what’s best for you so worry no more...If you give it up, you can have it all. I remember MC Hammer saying that some years ago. I really believe that to be true, so let someone know today that it's okay. Thanks for stopping by!

A little information about the book of Job..
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Job_%28Biblical_figure%29

Tinzley Bradford

How Can You Get Closer To Your Destiny?

This is a question many people ask themselves all the time, this is something that I'm almost certain everyone wants to know how to do. We are all here for a purpose, but what is it? " How can we get closer to our destiny?" I've been looking for ways to find out just what I'm supposed to be doing and how to do it. I have put together a few tips on ways that may help you get closer to your destiny.

1.I have come to the conclusion that finding your true meaning is not being afraid to take risks. You have this vision that only you see and know in your heart will work if only you were given a chance. Sometimes instead of waiting to be given a chance, you have to take a chance. You may not end up exactly where you want to, but you'll be headed in the right direction. Swim with fish, not seaweed.

2. Don't let lack of support or belief from others hold you back from your destiny. Sometimes we are our own biggest fans and may be the only ones who truly believe in our dreams; you know what, “There is nothing more beautiful than knowing your value." Someday everyone will, don't quit. It’s a mighty long walk, especially when you're trying to walk backwards.

3. Being too stuck in your ways and not allowing other likeminded people to suggest ideas that may benefit you both. I think the biggest mistake people make is thinking they can do everything alone. Its okay to believe in yourself, but never think for a minute you won't need other peoples help along the way. The main person you're dodging could end up being the one who gives you the deal. Don't ever burn your bridges...

4. Do a bit of what you love everyday even if it's just a simple idea that you write down on a sheet of paper, or maybe a new contact you met online you decided to reach out to, it could be a simple encouraging post on your blog, face book or twitter page that motivates you and others, or even just a thought that crosses your mind. Do something each day that you love and you know will lift you up mentally. 

5. Finally, don't spend too much time on negative thoughts or in negative conversations. Notice I said "don't spend too much time." I say this because it's just human nature to think negative at times, but don't allow it to upstage your true meaning in life. Get it out and be done with then move on. You have much to do like continue to reach your true destiny ; and trust me talking negative time after time again will not get you to that place. I have been learning this myself and at the end of the day there is just no room for it in my life. Meditate and listen to what God is trying to tell you, you know He doesn't have anything negative to say.

"Each time you make a decision to move toward the life you say you want, you are doing your most important spiritual work. I call these daily choices your 'holy moments.'"

—  Oprah

Everyday I work to get better at what I do. Everyday I strive to be a better person, forgive me if I make mistakes for I am only human. Everyday I pray for an answer that just makes sense. Everyday I get that much closer to my destiny.

Thanks for stopping by, I hope you were able to take something helpful away at the very least; think of ways to get to that place of destiny.

Tinzley Bradford

You Are The Head Not The Tail....

You are the head not the tail

Today I want to spread some love to all those special people who just need to hear something nice including me. Today I would like everyone to spread the love!

I'd like to hug that lonely child who misses her mom and wishes dad would just show up while she sits lonely in foster care dreaming of a different life. It's okay to dream sweetie, and know you are never alone as long as you just believe things will get better; then they will. This hugs for you. You are the head not the tail, you are a leader.

This blessing wish is for that family who just can't seems to make ends meet. You're not making much money and the bills just keep on coming. It's hard for lots of people we all embrace you and pray for victory.I pray right now for a blessing that will get you right where you need to be, I pray for overcoming adversity and in Jesus name a miracle for you and your family. This too shall pass.

This is for that teenager who's left feeling like an outcast just for being different. For all the names they call you, for all the cruel jokes that play on you for all the harm they attempt to do to you, and for all of those who are trying to break you. I love you and wish I could just give you a hug right now. No body said life would be easy but if only they knew how hard it truly is for some of us, they would learn to love more. This hugs for you. You are in my prayers.

This is for that smart intelligent person who has a vision but no one  believes in you. People  try to down play your gifts making you feel like a loser. I pray for a break to come to you when you need it most yet never expected it. I pray that you have the strength to make it through and the ability to fight and stand firm in what your vision is and stay true to yourself. I believe in you so don't give up! Take this big warm embrace you are more than a conquer, .

Listen, life is a funny thing. There will be good times and there will be bad times. I encourage you to keep your eye on the prize to never ever let anyone tell you that you can't and to stick with it, even if you're doing it for free. When you're doing what you love someday the right people will notice and it will be just a matter of time. Just remember whenever you're in a position to help others, you should do it. Blessings come in disguise. You are the head not the tail, keep your head up!

Tinzley Bradford

The Mother Daughter "Weight Loss" Challenge

Me and my daughter working it off!

I've been talking about my daughter and I and our weight loss challenge. On September 25th, we decided to "Lose The Weight!" I wanted to let you in on the journey and can't wait for the great results once we accomplish our goals. This is definitely something good that we should all add to our life. Exercise!!




Thanks for stopping by.
Tinzley Bradford

Happy Just Makes Sense.....

Are you happy? How do you know if you are? What are you doing if you aren't? With all the things to worry about in today's world like troubled relationships, not feeling valued, not making ends meet,  being single but wanting love, feeling like evil people are plotting against you, feeling as if no one’s on your side and the list goes on and on. There are tons of things that could make a person no longer have that "glow" that everyone often notices they usually have.

Stop it I say stop it! I've been doing some soul searching; I wanted to see if all the worry and fret over things we have no control over was even worth it. I spent one day doing nothing but thinking about how things hadn't gone the way I'd wished,  I thought about people who I thought were in a position to help and how they turned their backs on me and I never saw it coming, I worried about what others were thinking, ( totally not me ) I thought about everything negative that could come to mind. By the end of the day, I was nervous, worried, anxious, couldn't think or speak clearly, wasn't myself and even felt like others hated me. I realized I had become very tired, exhausted and sad. (Not a good feeling)

The very next day I decided to start my day off with happy thoughts, I met with some of my dear friends, told jokes like old times, spent the entire day on an outing with them, laughed, embraced, talked to God, didn't worry or stress, didn't allow the enemy to win, I reflected on all the good people in my life who I know love and care for me, all the good things that have happened to me. By the end of the day, I was singing Yolanda Adams "Be Blessed."

It felt good being happy, knowing God has my back, knowing my true friends would never let me sink nor would they plot evil things behind my back, knowing that my family was rooting for me and supporting anything I decided to do, knowing that I'm loved. I realized that people can be cruel and just plain unhappy with themselves so therefore, they don't want others to be happy so they try to block their blessings. Don't worry it's not you, it's them. If you know your heart and you know God knows your heart then stand firm in your word and don't let them break you. You will be just fine. In a world where it's easy to just give up, give in and be sad; I choose joy because at the end of the day "Happy Just Makes Since."

Don't let them break you

Today's motivation is, never let anyone break you no matter what! When you love something so much and you're passionate about it just keep on doing it no matter what; someday it will pay off! There will be those who envy you, there will be those who wish you'd fail, and there will be those who will try to make you fail; but don't let them steal your ambition ever. Nobody ever said the road would be easy, but I know God hasn't brought me this far to leave me. Hang in there anyone who maybe going through this right this very moment! You are more than a conquer. You are the head and not the tail. You will make it through! Just believe!

Tinzley Bradford

Go Ahead and Tweet, but Don't Forget About Your Family and Friends!!

Photo from Microsoft images

I'm starting to notice that Social Media is not only very popular, but it can for some be very addictive and overwhelming. Many feel that if they haven't tweeted about something, no matter how relevant or not so relevant it is; then they have failed. I can totally understand why many would feel this way. I've seen people post stuff like, "I unfollow people who haven't tweeted in more than three days or people will post things like if you're not tweeting daily, don't follow me. How cruel and unperson-able is that? It's like you are made to feel you have to send 10 messages to some people, just to get their approval, why? I mean keep in mind, building relationships on line via social media, should be more than trying to get the " I tweeted the most " award. It should not only be about products, service, marketing, networking and getting information; it should also be about family, friends, pets, photos and people’s lives as well. Keep in mind, you're not tweeting programmable robots, ( I mean I hope not ) you're tweeting humans who happen to have families and friends, with things they want to share other than what "you " think they should be tweeting.

I have come up with ways to become more personable on the web and build stronger relationships with not only brands, but the people behind them.

1. Check out their "real" profile. Many people have sites that link directly from twitter so you can see what their really about. Look at what they do and find out whom "they" are and if this is a person you could see yourself sitting down having a cup of coffee with. If it's interesting to you and you think you may benefit from what they stand for, then follow them not only to get information, but to build an online relationship.

2.Take the time to not only follow them, but sometimes when they tweet, respond back with @???? and your feedback or comment. Many times they will respond if they saw it, sometimes not, but at least you've done your part. Doing this shows that you actually care about what they are saying and aren't just a person in a pile of followers who just want to be followed back themselves.

3. If they allow you to, join their personal sites follow page and ask them to join yours if they like it. Also, it's okay to post a few comments on their actual site as well. Start building that personal relationship and be transparent with it. Things shouldn't be just one-sided. Also, consider that people can be busy and may not respond right away, but once they set that time aside to reach out to people, I'm sure they will. You must also do the same. Practice what you "tweet."

4. Stay involved on twitter, no that doesn't mean tweet every single minute of your life, but make sure you keep pushing what your niche is out there and re-tweet things that are actually interesting to you that you think others may find interesting. I don't suggest just sitting around re-tweeting what everyone else is saying, have your own voice out there and stay true to it, believe me it pays off in the long run.

5. Balance your social media to fit your lifestyle and don't forget to feed the dog, take out the trash, pick your child up from soccer practice and meeting the husband, wife, girlfriend, or boyfriend for that romantic dinner you planned two weeks ago.Little Jimmies been yelling for help with his science project for a while now, help him now and tweet later. I don't think it would go over well if you're always online 24/7 and miss a dinner date with that special someone all in the name of "tweeting." Hallelujah! (And this doesn't mean tweet while at dinner with them either, put it down!)


 There are many things that I agree is very important and is probably happening right now, while you read this. It's quite alright to love social media and making connections, I love it and there's a difference between being passionate about it and being plan addicted to it. So go ahead and tweet, but don't forget about the things that matter most, your loved ones. You don't have to send them ten messages to get an approval, they already approve.

Tinzley Bradford

Making Time for the Things That Matter

Yesterday I realized something that I'm certain is nothing new. People have become more concerned with their smart phones and the "cool" stuff they can do with them, than having a good conversation with the people around them, at that very moment. I was in my car and noticed that everyone was on their mobile device doing something at the same exact time. It felt very lonely, very lonely. I then realized that had I not been driving, I too would have probably been on my mobile device as well. I mean it appears that what used to be a fun and energetic environment of people sharing, talking, laughing and simply engaging with each other, seems to have turned into a game of double dutch ( try to get in when and if you can.)

Now I'm not preaching against smart phones, dumb phones, big phones or small phones, but what I am preaching against is the continued distance these devices can cause amongst family and friends many times without us even noticing it. We are simply not talking anymore, we are not bonding anymore, we are distracted with things that really don't even matter. Are we becoming robots? Are we only responding when data is entered into our data base? You say, "So what's going on with you, how did you like the cheesecake I gave you?" While totally engaged with their mobile device they say," Huh? Oh ummm, everyone is going to where blue to the picnic." After several attempts of trying to converse, you realize you're fighting in a war that you obviously aren't going to win, technology. "The Smart Phone." I mean it is pretty stiff competition, it's colorful and attractive, it's has all kind of cool things to do, apps to download, friends to connect with, ( even though you're there in person) noise it makes when playing a game just plain fun. And you, well you're just a dry boring person who is at this very moment hindering me from downloading this cool new app and I just missed out on responding back to a direct message on twitter because you wanted to know what flavor ice cream I wanted. OMG We're at the ice cream parlor for crying out loud!!! Put the phone down!!!

Well I know I won't be able to even start to compete against this very robust tool that seems to be taking over, but I will say my experience has made me want to focus on what matters most, my friends and my family. I can also say if it's not strictly business, must we be engaged in the smart phone every freaking minute of the day? Have we become so dependent on what a bunch of people in cyberspace are saying or doing that we no longer care or are interested in the people who are right beside us wanting to talk to us at that very moment?  I thought about this real hard and decided , I want my family back, I want to see more than the top of my daughters head while she's texting or face-booking or tweeting on her smart phone. I want to laugh with my best friend more and not feel like I'm just talking to myself and only being responded to in order to keep the peace. I too will no longer be all engaged in this device, I will set time aside to work on my blogs, twitter, and face book posts especially when I'm with friends and family. Why do I say this? Well if anything, I mean anything happened to any of the people who matter most in my life, I want to at least be able to remember our last conversation and all the fun we may have had and not have memories of them trying to chat while I chose to tweet. Make time for the things that matter, it' feels good to see your loved ones eyes again.

In her article "Why I deleted twitter from my phone, Alice Gregory gives you more to think about check it out http://www.businessinsider.com/why-i-deleted-twitter-from-my-phone-2010-7

Check out this article on protecting your smart device by Lee Allen with the Tucson Business because we do spend a lot of time putting our personal business on them http://www.azbiz.com/articles/2010/01/15/media_technology/tech_talk/doc4b4f5975df260163539228.txt

Now I'm not saying I plan to delete my apps, but I am saying I plan to not let my apps control me or keep me away from my loved ones. 


Tinzley Bradford

Find Your Voice and Stay True to it!

Whether it's high or low, big or small, short or tall. Do it with confidence and stay true to it. I recently began to review my old posts on not only this blog, but my relationship blog http://www.menwomendatingfromtinzley.com/
I realized that I have been pretty consistent with my posts and have stayed true to what I feel the need to share. I am ready to broaden my horizons and do even more in blogging. I will be launching a niche blog real soon that will be for brand advertisements and articles based on products and services. It will be my first review, product/niche blog for brands. I'm too excited about it and I do plan on continuing my personal blogs here on Eblogger. I just think I could do so much more as a blogger!I know someday there will be tons of traffic, but for now I'm just trying to find and keep what makes me genuine. My words!

This will be my opportunity to see if I can be a sales woman as well as a blogger. Check out these links below on brands, FTC and bloggers. 
http://airfoilpr.typepad.com/airfoilpr/2010/08/what-the-ftc-guidelines-mean-to-bloggers.html

http://www.imslant.com/blogging/social-networking-to-improve-your-blogs-traffic

Thanks for stopping by

Tinzley Bradford

I Found A New Love and His Name Is "Vingenzos" My Review

I know you're wondering how this has anything to do with relationships and dating, and most of all why am I writing about Vingenzos on my relationship blog? Well I'm in love with this place and it's also a great place to take a date, so there you have it.The other day I was watching Good Day Atlanta on Fox Five road warrior segment. The news reporter was highlighting a restaurant which I'd never heard of called "Vingenzos." Clip from show: http://tinyurl.com/27ccka3


I immediately took an interest because I told myself I'm going to start being more adventurous.What I loved about this place was the fresh food that comes straight from the garden and farm to the table, no prepackaged food shipped in. I was very much interested in trying it out especially after I saw the pictures of the meals on camera. It looked beautiful and I wanted some right then and there. The next day I told one of my good friends about it  and we decided to take a road trip all the way to Woodstock, where this restaurant is located. Directions: http://tinyurl.com/26sggak


When we got there we were met with a very nice, clean, classy (not over the top) warm down home place. I also noticed the chef walking around personally getting peoples feedback about the food. Not to mention he was featured on the actual segment on Good Day Atlanta. Our waitress "Bree" was outstanding! She pleasantly described the food and what we'd expect from each dish we inquired about, impressive.

I decided to start off with a salad so I chose the "Insalata Mediterranea"  which has Spinach,Roma Tomatoes, Cerignola Green Olives, Red Onions and Oregano topped with a Balsamic Vinagrette . It was so good and I actually cleaned the plate.

I then decided to try the pizza and ordered whats called the "Regina" it comes with San Marzano Tomato Sauce, Latte Fresco Mozzarella, House Made Sausage, and Wild Mushrooms and Basil. I felt like I was in heaven from the first bite you can just taste the freshness and the richness of the dishes.

Wow! Is all I can say this trip was so far very worth it. Not to mention the chef came over to our table to personally brag about how he made every single recipe himself and how he just knows that no one can top him. I loved his confidence. He dared us to try dessert. So I wanted something different for dessert. And Bree our waitress was excellent she knew every dessert detail by hard and was able to sell us on this "Torta Caprese" it's a Flourless Chocolate Almond Cake. Hmmm Flourless? I tried it and it melted in my mouth. It was so original like nothing I every tasted, little bits of almond chips. Soft and easy to eat and the chocolate. OMG it was immaculate!Chef even threw in one of his House Made Gelatos which complimented the cake well. I don't know why he just gave it to us. ( I think he liked me!) LOL

I had the best time and I can honestly say if you're looking for some outstanding food that's fresh and excellent service,  "Venginzos" is the place for you I highly recommend this place. The service and food and environment is great and not to mention the managers walk around and hand deliver plates to customers as well. Talk about great, outstanding, and awesome, they get it! See me and chef below.Go visit them!

Tinzley Bradford

Loving My New Look! Do Something Wild and Different! Make That Change!

Today I am feeling so good. Got a new style and just loving it! It's amazing how when you try something different, many times it can bring out things in you that otherwise you wouldn't have known existed.( Motivation!) Always take the time to recognize your own beauty. It's okay, there's a difference between cocky and confident. Cocky people tend to be-little others and feel no one can do anything better than them. Confident people have belief in themselves and know they can do anything if given the chance. Today, began to change somethings in your life that's been the same for a long time and needs to be upgraded. That could mean your hair, your style, the route you take to work, your circle of friends, and most importantly your attitude. Make that change!

Tinzley Bradford

I let an elderly couple get the parking spot

I'd been circling around for about a good seven minutes in hope of finding a parking spot close to the entrance of the mall. Not because I'm lazy, but because it was so hot that the closer to the entrance, the less time in the sun. Whew!

Finally, I spotted one just a few feet away from the entrance. I noticed a car backing out and I was positioned next to get the spot when suddenly, I saw an elderly couple pull up with a signal on indicating they too were after the spot. They then saw me there first and I could tell they really wanted the spot, but tried to respect me for being there first.

I've always had a soft spot for the elderly and just love to see them happy. I kindly gestured for them to go ahead. In my mind I'm like, well looks like I'll just have to be hot. I noticed his face lit up as he waved excitedly as if to say," Wow, people still care in this world?"  His sweet heart sitting patiently beside him nearly broke her neck to honor me for giving them the spot. I smiled and waved as I past what was suppose to be my spot. I ended up parking very far away, then I realized it wasn't so bad after all and at the same time, I'd made things easier on someone else. Felt good!

I know my blessings come from how I treat others and selfless acts of kindness. How horrible would it have been if I'd dashed into the spot forcing them to have to circle around in hopes of finding a closer spot themselves?We have got to look a little deeper at our actions and think with our hearts a little bit more, spread a bit of love to even strangers. It makes a world of difference.

I went inside to discover the shirt I wanted which was originally $29.00, had been marked down and additional 25% off; left me paying a low $13.00. I know it was part of my reward for doing a bit of something good. Even if it wasn't, you can't beat the feeling of knowing you have Gods favor and the day only got better.  Do something good today it will make you smile and it will make a difference. Have a good day, thanks for stopping by.

Tinzley Bradford

The Art of Confidence (my views)

I have come to realize that in today's world and probably yesterdays world too, one must have confidence in themselves and their abilities. There is so much you can do that you probably don't even know about. When you have confidence in yourself, there is a bit of an art to it. You can't be arrogant, you shouldn't be cocky, you should just know your worth and have the ability to sell that worth to others. ( Shouldn't be hard to do )

Ask yourself, what are you good at? What are you passionate about? What do you want to do? Why do you want to do it? What are you driven or motivated by? Then take all these questions, answer them and pull from there. This is the art of confidence. According to Websters, confidence means "assurance: freedom from doubt; belief in yourself and your abilities." How do you gain and keep it? 

1.Well first you must empower yourself to have it. Tell your self there's nothing you can't do, but be realistic of coarse. If you can't do a back bend, a head stand, ending in a split, I don't suggest you attempt to or tell people that you can. That wouldn't be confidence, that would just be stupidity. (Not to mention the doctors bill you would accrue behind such an attempt!) What I mean is just having a can do, go get it, upbeat spirit, that is displayed in your demeanor. That's confidence.


2. Show your abilities through actions. Have you ever met that person who just talks, talks, and talks more about how great they are at something and how they can do this and that if just given a chance; yet you have seen no physical proof?  Well it's nice to feel this way, but what actions have you taken to show this ability? It doesn't just have to be in your work place. What about things you do outside of your job that everyone has the ability to see and possibly remember you for those talents? If you talk the game, allow people to see how well you play it.

3.Do your homework. What have other confident, successful, and smart people done that lead them to their big break? I tell people all the time, do a  Google, Bing, Yahoo, Ask Jeeves, whatever search, and ask questions about your interest and you can get a slew of very helpful answers.  For example, if I want to know more about marketing myself or my product, I wouldn't just go next door and ask my neighbor. I would do an online search about ways this can be done. This allows you to gather as much information as you can and builds your confidence in finding ways to do it.


4. Don't let the stumbling blocks make you lose it. Life will happen, there will be disappointments and people may not believe in you no matter how well you have proven yourself. This can be very disheartening I know first hand, but the good thing is YOU know you can do this! ( where's that confidence?) Don't let feelings of failure and let down  cause you to lose your confidence. I tell people all the time," If you don't get it in the washing, get it in the rinsing." I don't know who to quote for that; but I swear by it. Trust me the right people who matter will see you; just find a different way or approach to what you're doing and keep on doing it anyway. Just because they  didn't select or choose you doesn't mean someone else won't see your value. It will pay off, keep confidence alive! 

5. Finally, Surround yourself with like minded people who get it. If you want to learn more about writing or social media, hanging around people passionate about nothing more than eating and sleeping probably won't keep you inspired. Hook up with and begin to mingle more with people who write or who are social media geeks, with a loyal following and a pretty descent track record to show for it. Ask questions, collaborate with them, and just have fun being involved and around what you love.Sooner or later you will begin to see a bit of a buzz and a demand for you and what you're doing.  This plays a huge part in building your confidence and most of all keeping it.

Confidence is like a fine piece of art sitting over your mantle, while it may have the ability to bring you wealth; the beauty of it is priceless! (Tinzley) 

I included a link to some other great confidence blogs on "Net Worked Blogs about confidence" take a visit, very nice sights   http://www.networkedblogs.com/topic/Confidence/


Tinzley Bradford

Today I Will Adjust my Sails, I Love Life!

One of my favorite quotes, "The pessimist complains about the wind, the optimist expects it to change; the leader adjusts the sails." ~John Maxwell

What do you do when you are dealing with a very sensitive, self absorbed, manipulative, sneaky and very condescending person who doesn't feel they are any of the things I just mentioned?  You change the way you deal with them, that's what you do. I'm done complaining about this person who seems to whine their way into not being ousted and seems to play "victim" quite well. You know that type who seems to think no one likes them, no one respects them and no one wants to "play" anymore?  It's all good as long as people are walking around with fake smiles and constantly placating to this persons needs and wants with no questions, but the moment that stops and this person is expected to actually hold a real conversation that requires them to think and involves more than " What kind of shoes they chose to wear and why they chose them, or how cute your eye makeup is today, here we go with the victim role. Give me a break! You're not dealing with a kid whose upset because you took their ice cream, you're dealing with adult people who have lives and families and who just want to be treated fairly.

Another favorite quote, "You really realize just how important someone else can be when you're no longer the star of your own life." — Clint Black, country singer.

I'm noticing that this person is the star of their own life and it's never them it's always other people who just for some reason suddenly stopped  "liking them." Just out of the blue, just like that, they didn't entice it they are simply being, " victimized." I have decided that my family, my real friends, my daughter and all the people who matter in my life are who I will pay most attention to. I will no longer allow this person in my personal space only to turn around and be deceived. I will feed this person with a very long handle spoon, but make sure I smile while I do it. I will continue to work hard in life towards achieving my goals and the right people who matter will someday take notice. I know that only God has the answers to many of our questions and I just have to trust in Him. Today I am adjusting my sails! I suggest you try adjusting yours, because only you can make "YOU" happy! Have a wonderful day and remember to make those changes so that you can keep your joy!

Tinzley B

It's Time to Live, Today I Choose to Enjoy Life as it is Right Now

 I place my hands on life today and it belongs to me.

How do you push through all the clutter in your life? How do you remain composed and focused despite obvious chaos that surrounds you? How can you really embrace life and truly enjoy it? I mean there are things you want to do but you can't. Places you want to go but you're not able to. People you'd like to meet but that has yet to happen. then you may feel you're currently doing something you used to love, but now you despise because of your environment. How do you deal with that?

I am learning to just be happy with what I have, and where I am. To be happy with those already around me who I love and care for and who love and care for me,and cherish every single moment with them. To know that it's okay to dream and strive for what you want in life, but to be content with what you have right now and where you are right this very moment. I have toned it down in my life, I get excited but I'm not as anxious like I used to be, sometimes anxiety can cause much stress in your life, because you're constantly trying to go go go and do do do to and prove prove prove the point where you forget to live live live and enjoy life as it is right this very minute.

Today I'm embracing life and all the great things is has to offer me right this very moment. I'm going to smile and continue to spread life into others, even when I may not feel like it I know I must do it, just to keep me going. Today I'm ignoring the negative and only focusing on the positive. I know that blessings come in all shapes, sizes, and forms and today I will recognize them all no matter how big or how small. I will look at my life and ask myself just how bad is it? Once I realize it's not bad at all and that I'm loved by many, I will smile and say wow I'm blessed!

Today it won't matter if that person who usually speaks doesn't, maybe they didn't see me this time or maybe they were distracted. It won't matter if I'm overwhelmed at times, I mean who doesn't get overwhelmed at times? Today I will take it slow and focus on it with the right energy, the same energy that allows me to love and embrace others. Today I will know that those who have wronged me no matter who they are will someday realize it and try to make it right, but I won't worry over it just as long as I treat people with love, kindness, and genuineness. I won't have to prove anything because I know my worth and so do they.






Tinzley Bradford
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Talk About Doing Good Things (Oprah Gets It )

I recently read an article about Oprah Winfrey and how she gave each person on her staff $10,000 an ipod and and ipad. I look at that as just a beautiful thing and the fact that she didn't have to do it makes it even more beautiful. I know in this world, material things aren't all that matters. I know that the idea of just plan giving is enough no matter how big or small. I know that there are people who wish they could give but can't. I also know there are people who can give, but don't. A few things I know for sure that we can all give. Love, understanding, appreciation, acceptance, a listening ear, a helping hand, and the gift of a smile.

I often ask how does Oprah do it? How does she want to just give that much of her money away? I then watch her re-runs from my "Oprah's 20th Anniversary" collection and realized, Oprah has a gift and her gift is the ability to love people, a gift that each of us love to receive.

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And make sure you do something good today.

Tinzley Bradford

Embracing Hospice song title, "Indeed"

 This song is dedicated to all those who make a difference in the lives of others each and everyday. Myself and a colleague wrote this song while doing volunteer work for Embracing Hospice. A final resting place for the terminally ill. We performed it at one of their annual meetings to thank them and remind them that each and everyday, they embrace hope in someone who may have felt all hope was gone.  At the end of the song, one of my colleagues performs a song by Pastor Marvin Winans, "I need you to survive."


Singing the song I wrote with the Embracing Hospice singers

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So Love Does Conquer All, Today I chose joy over pain and it worked.

Today I decided to not say one word about something that's been on my mind for the last three days. I received some news and it wasn't the news I wanted to hear. So I started to linger on the issue a bit. I began to get more and more angry thinking to myself, I have to confront this. I wanted to tell everyone about this and make "certain people" look pretty darn bad. I vented to my best friend, my mother, my sister, even my daughter and they all understood my frustrations and could see why I felt so cheated. But they all said one thing that was very similar,  " Tinzley, your day is coming!" Yeah Yeah Yeah I thought to myself.

I mean how can you play by all the rules and do it with ease, yet it not even seem to matter? How can someone lift you up and in the blink of an eye tear you down? How can all you do and have done not matter? How can you even look at me? I wanted to gossip, I wanted to confront, I wanted to judge and compare others to me, I wanted to get smart, I wanted to be a complete monster,I wanted answers and I wanted them NOW!

Then something happened, each day I prayed and realized my own value, my own worth, all I have accomplished, my ability to connect with people, my ability to not need other peoples approval to define me, my ability to know that everyone doesn't have to like me or be impressed by me for me to feel good about myself. My loyalty, my love for others, my confidence without anyone having to tell me I'm awesome. I thought about how far I'd come, all the great relationships I've formed along the way, all the people whose lives I've impacted along the way. My bright smile, my warm heart, my passion for service. And the list could go on for days.

I realized that each day I felt a little better, the news wasn't so hard to bear after all. I thought about what truly motives me and it's not how many people approve, or like me. It's not how many people nominate me or select me, no what motivates me is Love despite of, love even when I'm angry, love even when I'm sad, love when I don't feel like it, love when it doesn't seem to make since.

Today I felt like a new person and I told a few people how much I appreciate them. I over looked the negative and focused on the positive. I realized just how great things are as they are and how things will happen for me,just as they should. I realized that love conquers all. Now I don't have any energy left to gossip, confront, be mean, or display anger. I just allowed my joy to out way my pain and I feel great!

I know there will be disappointments in our lives and it's okay to mourn. It's okay to feel sad and feel hurt, you're only human and you have feelings. But try resting your anger for a few days, just let it be yours and no one else's. It's okay to vent, but only to those you trust. You will begin to notice it's not worth the argument, it's not unbearable, and mostly, it's not the end of the world. Put your anger on timeout, and then it will gradually begin to time out.

Tinzley Bradford

Today, is the beginning of a brand new day....Leave your worries behind

Today, I decided to not worry, not let little things get under my skin, not stress over things, not worry about my job, not carry unhappy thoughts around, not neglect myself, not neglect my family, not say mean things to people that I'll never be able to take back, forgive everyone who has ever hurt or disappointed me.

I already feel this weight lifting up off of me. I feel free like I can start over and catch up, like I can start fresh and still excel  , like it's nothing I can't do. Today I will tell someone else to do the same, I will tell someone else to go for the gold and reach for the stars. Today I will smile and hope my positive energy spreads to many many people who need it. Today I place all my worries in Gods hands and know that everything is going to be okay for you and for me. Whoever you are, just know that even if no one else has said this to you in a while; I love you, you are a beautiful person, you are a smart person, there is nothing you can't do, you too should leave your worries behind and start today fresh.

When it's all said and done, you are more valuable than you think.

Tinzley Bradford

The smallest things can be the largest things ....

I created this blog because I wanted to share the good things I have done and allow others to come and share the good things they've done. This story which talks about how HomeDepot at the spur of the moment, brought a simple wish alive for the sister of a dying lady. The wish was to give her sister the gift of a beautiful garden to look at, during her last days here on earth. Here is the link: http://www.silive.com/northshore/index.ssf/2010/05/a_westerleigh_garden_born_of_s.html

I tell you, to complain about what we don't have, what we wish we had, and what we want, can make us all look pretty selfish when all this beautiful lady Elizabeth wanted was a garden. Be thankful for all you have, every chance you get do something good, give the gift of love even to a stranger. Home Depot did...

Tinzley Bradford

I realized what truly inspires me,

That smile I give to even strangers.( A smile from you can bring out the best in others.)

Letting people get in front of me in traffic. (It's just traffic, it's not their fault.)

Being  patient with people and situations that I have no control over.( I don't roll my eyes, I just listen.)

My ability to connect with others on a personal level. (It's not just about me.)

Holding the door while the mother and her 4 kids walk out.(Just a few seconds of my time to make something easier for someone else.)

Going to work and giving 110 percent everyday, despite of.( It's all about the customers, not me.I know the right people already see me)

Paying my mortgage each month. (What a blessing it is to have a home, even though two rooms and a bed would suffice.)

Telling someone if they need me for anything just let me know.( And meaning it)

Being there for my daughter and my family.( No matter what )

Smiling at a little toddler and it's proud parents.( Priceless )

Knowing that life is what I make it, and choosing joy over pain.( No one said it would be easy

Being a no nonsense type of woman.( Keeps me out of trouble )

Living for God no matter what the naysayers do.( It's not about anyone else, He created this world and everything in it.)

Telling someone who I care about, that I love them.( It means a lot to people )

Performing simple acts of kindness just because.Sometimes the smallest act, can be the most powerful. Keep doing good...

So, take a few minutes and just share, what inspires you? 

Tinzley Bradford

Today make it about you.. Work on you when needed.

How are ya feeling these days? Are you feeling fresh and renewed or overwhelmed with no clue? If you chose the latter you may need to seek ways to make "yourself" feel better. There are many reasons people feel overwhelmed and there are many ways to tone things down a bit in your life, that you may not feel have been causing this feeling. I have put together a few things that may cause one to be overwhelmed and a few ways to alleviate the feeling.

1.Wanting everyone to like you and doing way too much to try to make them. This causes stress and unnecessary worry in your own life. Expecting a certain reaction when you do or say something and when you don't get it, you sit and wonder if that person likes you or not. You then try other things and ways to make them appear to like you. This is ridiculous to me. There is a lot you could be doing with all your positive energy that doesn't include trying to be a "people pleaser." Try smiling, treating the person nice, but not stressing yourself out for their approval. What it all boils down to is, "everyone's not meant to be your friend!" Embrace the loyal, positive, fun ones you have and leave the dry ones thirsty for attention. Trust me, once they see you aren't as active with them,they will then try to do things to bond with you. Then maybe they will began to like you on their own.

2.Taking on more than you can handle, and knowing it. Are you that "yes" person who just doesn't know how to say no or maybe without feeling you've let someone down? I used to be that person, but not anymore. If you want to appear on top of everything to the point you take on everything, eventually the stress will catch up with you and you will crash and burn. Can I say be productive, but keep it balanced in your life? Don't worry if you can't get to it, someone will. Even though you may be excellent at what you do, you are not captain savior and there is only so much you should truly say you can do. Even with friends, if you usually come to events and this time you can't make it or don't feel like it, just say it.This gives you time to change your mind should you decide to go anyway, instead of feeling obligated to go because you promised weeks ago. Then your appearance will be a pleasant surprise. And you can say "I" decided to come, had a little extra time.

3.If you're happy great,if you're not happy find things to brighten your day. Walking around trying to fake it can become a huge burden on your shoulders. If you are miserable you can only hide it so long before the horns start to pop up and you find yourself snapping on that person at work who only asked you where the printer paper is kept. People don't think this really works, but breathing in and out really slow can relieve tension. Breath in through your nose and out through your mouth. Go ahead try it! Hmmmm feels good doesn't it? Try meditating on what you feel maybe making you unhappy and work on it. If it's money problems ask a friend for a loan, you'll be surprised how many people are willing to jump in for a friend in need, even if you didn't want to have to ask. Go stand outside and just look at the trees as they wave at you, look at the sky and how pretty it is. Smile and think of good things you have done for someone. What ever you do find out the source of your misery and work towards healing. You will be surprised at how many therapist and experts have blogs and articles that fit issues that may cause unhappiness. Google search and read your way to self improvement. Trust me, this will make you happy.


4.Saying things you don't really mean. If you say something mean it. If not you will then have to explain why you said it in the first place. Example, if someone asks you if you like key lime pie and you say yes it's good. Then two days later they show up all excited with a fresh key lime pie for you and you say," Nice, but I don't really care for key lime pie." How do you explain that? How do you think that would make someone feel, even you? Say what you mean and mean what you say.

The good I see in this is making positive change in not only your life, but others as well. When you feel well, everyone you come in contact with has a better chance of feeling well too.There are many things that cause unhappiness or misery that you can control, you just have to start doing it. I would share more, but I have to get ready for work. Besides, I don't need the stress of being late for no real reason. Good day and I hope this article sheds some light. Thanks for visiting.

Tinzley Bradford

Do something good, tell someone something nice today.

Have you ever felt that you don't know where you stand or where you should stand? You felt uncertain of what your next steps are or what your next steps should be. You didn't know if your best was good enough or simply not enough.  Like you have drive that's faster than the average person and at times too fast for even you to keep up with?

If so what do you do about it? How do you approach or handle it? Let me tell you what I did today.
Today I told someone how creative, talented and awesome they are. I did this because they are and because they needed to hear it. I notice many times people may feel they are doing good, but just don't quite know for sure. ( And barely hear it from the "right people.")The olden days of doing good, working hard, and being recognized for the outstanding job has changed a little. These days you must toot your own horn every now and then just to let other people know, you are confident, dependable, and knowledgeable at what you do, that's why you're still doing it. And doing it well!

People are afraid to speak highly of themselves which is understandable, they don't want to come across as a bragger; so why not do it for them?

I told this person the kind words because it made me feel good to make them feel good. I think when you share kind words, they will come back to you ten fold. It's funny because the moment I told the person these things, a heavy weight just lifted off my shoulders and I could think, breath, and see clearly. I could tell what I said made this persons day and for the remainder of the day,I could hear the energy and confidence through their voice. They felt like they could take on the world. They felt like there was nothing they couldn't do. They felt like they should always feel.

 Do something good, tell someone something nice today.

Tinzley Bradford

There are ways to not let "it" become you. Embrace the differences in others.

What do you do when you've done all you can, when you've given your all, when you've worked extra hard, yet still you seem to feel this tension? Well, you just keep doing all you can, giving your all and working extra hard. Chances are, the person making you feel tense, could be going through the same thing you are, or worse. (people are strange little beings)

Today I didn't allow that to bother me, I held my head up high, kept a smile on my face, and did a heck of a job. I used to let the vibes I picked up from others interfere with the way I was feeling. I didn't understand why or how a person one day could smile, treat you like a jewel, and make you feel special. Then the next day look at you like you stole something, barely speak and make you feel like crap? I finally realized after taking it personally one too many times, that people are different. Many of them have other things going on that they may not know how to hide or handle, therefore they tend to show their emotions towards whoever steps in front of them next. Even if you've done nothing but an awesome job the entire time they've known you. Just be thankful you don't have burdens you wear everyday.

I later realized that, I have to continue to be proud of myself and know my value no matter what someone else may try to do to make me feel less than a person. I have to know that the differences in others is what makes them unique and it's not always my job to get them told, or show them a thing or two; it's my job to embrace what I have no control over. To love even when I don't feel it back, to smile even when I feel like crying, to share nice thoughts even when I may want to curse someone out, and to embrace the differences of others, even when I want to cut them off.

This makes a difference in your balance, your mental stability and your joy. If you weigh yourself down with other peoples burdens, you'll never see above solid ground. The good I see in this is, being the loving, caring, kind person you always are may very much be what others need.

Let "your" light shine!

Tinzley Bradford

Today I gave kudos to three women with a cause...

Today while on Twitter, I noticed a tweet from twitter user who I follow "@Bethebutterfly." It was titled " 3 Inspiring Women Who Are Helping To Heal The Planet http://www.ecosalon.com/3-inspiring-women-who-are-helping-to-heal-the-planet/ 

I enjoy knowing and reading about people who inspire others so I immediately visited the link she provided. When I read the article, I felt like I'd been re-born. I felt like for a few minutes the nation was a place free of pollution, and everyone was on the same page, and change was being made in millions of peoples lives all because these three women chose to use their lives to make a difference.

I thought about how brave this is of them and how if only we all chose our lives to make a difference in the lives of millions, what a world this would be. I know it's tough trying to figure out that" thing" you do so well, that "difference" you hold the key to making. Trying to figure out what it is you can do to contribute. Can I say just reading about others is a huge start. Sharing the great things others do with your friends and family,spreading the word every chance you get is a huge start to change.

Just think about the millions who will read about these women and other people just like them.

These three women in the article I read aren't the first who have chose this route in their lives and I'm sure they won't be the last, but let their lives inspire yours, then you can take baby steps towards positive change. and realize what that "thing" is you were meant to do.There's a reason for everything, you have a purpose; try to figure it out.

Tinzley Bradford

Today I smiled and laughed when I really felt like crying....

Today was a tough day for me. I received some news that was kind of disheartening and left me feeling blank and empty. I mean it was good news for the person, but wow did it hurt. I sat there and joked and laughed and continued to try to make the issue seem to not have had an impact on me, but it did.

The good I see in this is, I smiled and made my dear friend feel happy even when I felt like breaking down and crying. I made him smile and let him know he's still cool with me, even though my heart was crushed and my feelings were hurt. I cracked jokes to calm the room from tension even though I felt over looked and unappreciated. Even now, there are tears in my eyes as I write this, there is a pain in my heart as I cross each  t and dot each i. I ask myself, "what do I gotta do?" Yet I still have no answers for myself.

It's tough being strong for someone else, just so they won't feel the pinch of tension and frustration while their trying to enjoy "their" moment.They say,"never let em see you sweat." If only they could see me now. Maybe I'm too sensitive or maybe, just maybe, I'm just human.

"There's hope, it doesn't cost a thing to smile, and you don't have to pay to laugh. You better thank God for that." ( Arie 2008 )

Tinzley Bradford

Doing good only gets better....

Today while I was at work on my way from lunch, I looked back and noticed a guy heading my way with a fully loaded cart of something I'm assuming he needed. I looked at him and asked, " Are you coming this way?" He replied, " Yes." I held the door so he could get in with out such a struggle and possibly dropping something. He thanked me and asked me if I like chocolate. "Of coarse" I said yes. He gave me a candy bar pre-packaged with what ever organization he works with on the label. I looked at him, smiled, accepted the candy bar and asked, "Who are you?" I know I hadn't seen him before. He told me his name, we shook hands and he walked off.

For a few minutes we made a connection, one I'm certain he won't forget and neither will I. When I noticed the organization he works with, it brought tears to my eyes, for I knew this was a strong, kind, loving yet dedicated man. Glad I had the pleasure to meet him.

Now she can remove all the tags off all her pillows and comforters....YAY!

So I wasn't sure if this fit in the category of doing something good. Then I thought about it and said; because of the information I shared, this woman can go home and freely cut all the tags off all her pillows and comforters she'd  felt forced to leave on her entire life. YAY!!!

I was out shopping the other day looking for some pillows to match my sofa. (I found some gorgeous ones by the way.) I ran into a lady who was doing the same thing, she and I both spoke about how nice the selection of pillows were, then she said," If only I didn't have to keep those stupid tags on them, they would be even prettier." I looked at her and said," Why would you have to keep the tags on them, you're the consumer and they become yours once you leave the store." She replied, yes but I thought it said...OMG it says the tags can only be removed by the consumer!! OMG I'm going home and cutting all those tags off everything!! Thank you !!" I don't think I've ever seen anyone more excited, (maybe except for me once I learned I could remove the tags.)

Apparently, she just like me, used to read only part of the tags and only noticed the part that says, "Under the penalty of law, this tag not to be removed except by the consumer." I often thought that was silly so one day I just really looked at it and read it, that's when I noticed.

I'm certain it's not like I just saved the world from some sort of attack, but I can proudly say, this woman can and will be tag free. And just think of how many of her friends lives she's going to make a difference in? I just told one of my friends the other day as well, and she was just as surprised.

How many will you cut today? It's okay, we are all guilty of thinking we'd go the jail or be on Americas most wanted  if we didn't leave the tags on our pillows. Hmmm, that sounds like it could be a movie or something. It can be called," Remove Your Tags And Die!!" I'll check with my agent, good day all!

Tinzley Bradford

The other day, I told a woman her hair was beautiful....

While I was on my way in Walmart, I was greeted by an older woman who was working the door as a greeter. I had a return to make so she stopped me and asked to tag my bag. Usually I would have gotten irritated because I know I don't steal, so why does my bag need to be tagged?  I'd just witnessed someone ahead of me being not so nice, and treating this lady like she was a nobody. I could see this lady looked to be at retirement age, trying to make ends meet. The look on her face and the energy she gave was that of someone afraid and not knowing where they stood in life. Not to mention the person ahead of me who'd just snatched a bag back from her and stormed off without even saying thank you. I could tell this woman was hurt by that, and God only knows how many people had been treating her that way all day long.

What if she was a grandmother who'd recently taken custody of her grandchildren for what ever reason? What if her husband, soul mate, and only person she had to support her recently fell sick and they can't afford the medical expenses, so she has to go back to work? What if she just lost everything she had in her retirement ( remember Enron?) and now she had to go back to work?

All she wants is to do her job and do it well. All she wants is to service customers the way she was trained.All she needs is to be loved.I thought can I be that someone she needs, just for the moment?

I looked her in her eyes as she scanned my bag, smiled and said,"your hair is beautiful and fits you well!" Her face lit up and she smiled back and began to tell me how much easier it is to manage. It was salt and pepper and was cut in the prettiest style. She handed my bag back, smiled and told me the service desk was straight down to my left. I said "Thank You!"


Tinzley Bradford

Yesterday I gave money to a lady who asked.....

Yesterday while I was shopping, a lady asked me if I had a dollar I could spare so she could have enough to pay for her groceries. I gave her four dollars. I didn't even know her name or her story, I just knew she was a person in need. I know it's a gift to have enough love in your heart to  not judge her because she's in the grocery store with out enough money, but to love her and give from your heart. I wish I could have paid for all her groceries.

Tinzley bradford

Today I reached out to old friends and co-workers I haven't spoken to in a long time.

It was nice connecting with old friends and co-workers, some I haven't seen or spoken to in years. They were just as warm as they always have been, which shows distance doesn't mean a thing when the bond you have is sincere. People will always show you love when you step back into the scene.

I strongly encourage anyone to just reach out to someone no matter how long it's been and get caught up, tell them they were just on your mind, or just send them a nice note. I tell you, love goes a long way and showing it no matter how little or big,can mean the world to someone. There are times when people may be going through some things and at times don't have the time or the energy to stay in touch, that's where you come in.
Make someone's day, reach out and make a difference in someones life, you never know; you may be just what they need.

Tinzley Bradford