Why do we suffer? Does it really make us Stronger...Remember Job?

I sit today thinking about everything that's going wrong. Wondering why bad things happen to good people? Wondering when my breakthrough will come? I'm questioning why and how people can be so cruel?  If only they could truly see me for who I am, they would know I’m a good person. Why is this happening, I serve God and do what’s right? Yes I question a lot of things. Then I remember Job and how God allowed even him, one of His most dedicated servants to lose everything he had including his family. I remembered how Job suffered with Leprosy a terrible disease. I think about the faith Job had even while dealing with all of this. I can only imagine what this must have felt like and question how could Job still be so accepting of all of this? How did he not complain and become angry even to those who loved him and simply wanted to help? Job believed that just as the Lord gives, he too taketh away. Because of his faith in God despite of all the bad things that happened to him, God gave him even more in return.

I now get it! I realize that what God has already done is enough. If He doesn't do anything else for me, He's already done enough. I am blessed, I have food to eat and didn't go hungry, I am working even in a struggling economy, I have a place to live and call home and a wonderful loving family who'd do anything for me. I have terrific friends who love me. I know that even through the mist of the storm, I have just what I need. So just because I didn't get what I wanted when I wanted, God has a plan for my life. He has a plan for yours too just have faith in Him. Stay strong and don't complain anymore, I know it will be tough because we are all human and we feel the need to vent which is perfectly fine, but just don't allow your circumstances to dominate who you are and what you are destined to be.

Today, tell someone that everything is going to be okay. Look them in their eyes and let them know you really care about them. Be a blessing to them and continue to believe and trust in God even when the going gets tough. He knows what’s best for you so worry no more...If you give it up, you can have it all. I remember MC Hammer saying that some years ago. I really believe that to be true, so let someone know today that it's okay. Thanks for stopping by!

A little information about the book of Job..
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Job_%28Biblical_figure%29

Tinzley Bradford

How Can You Get Closer To Your Destiny?

This is a question many people ask themselves all the time, this is something that I'm almost certain everyone wants to know how to do. We are all here for a purpose, but what is it? " How can we get closer to our destiny?" I've been looking for ways to find out just what I'm supposed to be doing and how to do it. I have put together a few tips on ways that may help you get closer to your destiny.

1.I have come to the conclusion that finding your true meaning is not being afraid to take risks. You have this vision that only you see and know in your heart will work if only you were given a chance. Sometimes instead of waiting to be given a chance, you have to take a chance. You may not end up exactly where you want to, but you'll be headed in the right direction. Swim with fish, not seaweed.

2. Don't let lack of support or belief from others hold you back from your destiny. Sometimes we are our own biggest fans and may be the only ones who truly believe in our dreams; you know what, “There is nothing more beautiful than knowing your value." Someday everyone will, don't quit. It’s a mighty long walk, especially when you're trying to walk backwards.

3. Being too stuck in your ways and not allowing other likeminded people to suggest ideas that may benefit you both. I think the biggest mistake people make is thinking they can do everything alone. Its okay to believe in yourself, but never think for a minute you won't need other peoples help along the way. The main person you're dodging could end up being the one who gives you the deal. Don't ever burn your bridges...

4. Do a bit of what you love everyday even if it's just a simple idea that you write down on a sheet of paper, or maybe a new contact you met online you decided to reach out to, it could be a simple encouraging post on your blog, face book or twitter page that motivates you and others, or even just a thought that crosses your mind. Do something each day that you love and you know will lift you up mentally. 

5. Finally, don't spend too much time on negative thoughts or in negative conversations. Notice I said "don't spend too much time." I say this because it's just human nature to think negative at times, but don't allow it to upstage your true meaning in life. Get it out and be done with then move on. You have much to do like continue to reach your true destiny ; and trust me talking negative time after time again will not get you to that place. I have been learning this myself and at the end of the day there is just no room for it in my life. Meditate and listen to what God is trying to tell you, you know He doesn't have anything negative to say.

"Each time you make a decision to move toward the life you say you want, you are doing your most important spiritual work. I call these daily choices your 'holy moments.'"

—  Oprah

Everyday I work to get better at what I do. Everyday I strive to be a better person, forgive me if I make mistakes for I am only human. Everyday I pray for an answer that just makes sense. Everyday I get that much closer to my destiny.

Thanks for stopping by, I hope you were able to take something helpful away at the very least; think of ways to get to that place of destiny.

Tinzley Bradford

You Are The Head Not The Tail....

You are the head not the tail

Today I want to spread some love to all those special people who just need to hear something nice including me. Today I would like everyone to spread the love!

I'd like to hug that lonely child who misses her mom and wishes dad would just show up while she sits lonely in foster care dreaming of a different life. It's okay to dream sweetie, and know you are never alone as long as you just believe things will get better; then they will. This hugs for you. You are the head not the tail, you are a leader.

This blessing wish is for that family who just can't seems to make ends meet. You're not making much money and the bills just keep on coming. It's hard for lots of people we all embrace you and pray for victory.I pray right now for a blessing that will get you right where you need to be, I pray for overcoming adversity and in Jesus name a miracle for you and your family. This too shall pass.

This is for that teenager who's left feeling like an outcast just for being different. For all the names they call you, for all the cruel jokes that play on you for all the harm they attempt to do to you, and for all of those who are trying to break you. I love you and wish I could just give you a hug right now. No body said life would be easy but if only they knew how hard it truly is for some of us, they would learn to love more. This hugs for you. You are in my prayers.

This is for that smart intelligent person who has a vision but no one  believes in you. People  try to down play your gifts making you feel like a loser. I pray for a break to come to you when you need it most yet never expected it. I pray that you have the strength to make it through and the ability to fight and stand firm in what your vision is and stay true to yourself. I believe in you so don't give up! Take this big warm embrace you are more than a conquer, .

Listen, life is a funny thing. There will be good times and there will be bad times. I encourage you to keep your eye on the prize to never ever let anyone tell you that you can't and to stick with it, even if you're doing it for free. When you're doing what you love someday the right people will notice and it will be just a matter of time. Just remember whenever you're in a position to help others, you should do it. Blessings come in disguise. You are the head not the tail, keep your head up!

Tinzley Bradford

Don't let them break you

Today's motivation is, never let anyone break you no matter what! When you love something so much and you're passionate about it just keep on doing it no matter what; someday it will pay off! There will be those who envy you, there will be those who wish you'd fail, and there will be those who will try to make you fail; but don't let them steal your ambition ever. Nobody ever said the road would be easy, but I know God hasn't brought me this far to leave me. Hang in there anyone who maybe going through this right this very moment! You are more than a conquer. You are the head and not the tail. You will make it through! Just believe!

Tinzley Bradford

The smallest things can be the largest things ....

I created this blog because I wanted to share the good things I have done and allow others to come and share the good things they've done. This story which talks about how HomeDepot at the spur of the moment, brought a simple wish alive for the sister of a dying lady. The wish was to give her sister the gift of a beautiful garden to look at, during her last days here on earth. Here is the link: http://www.silive.com/northshore/index.ssf/2010/05/a_westerleigh_garden_born_of_s.html

I tell you, to complain about what we don't have, what we wish we had, and what we want, can make us all look pretty selfish when all this beautiful lady Elizabeth wanted was a garden. Be thankful for all you have, every chance you get do something good, give the gift of love even to a stranger. Home Depot did...

Tinzley Bradford

Today make it about you.. Work on you when needed.

How are ya feeling these days? Are you feeling fresh and renewed or overwhelmed with no clue? If you chose the latter you may need to seek ways to make "yourself" feel better. There are many reasons people feel overwhelmed and there are many ways to tone things down a bit in your life, that you may not feel have been causing this feeling. I have put together a few things that may cause one to be overwhelmed and a few ways to alleviate the feeling.

1.Wanting everyone to like you and doing way too much to try to make them. This causes stress and unnecessary worry in your own life. Expecting a certain reaction when you do or say something and when you don't get it, you sit and wonder if that person likes you or not. You then try other things and ways to make them appear to like you. This is ridiculous to me. There is a lot you could be doing with all your positive energy that doesn't include trying to be a "people pleaser." Try smiling, treating the person nice, but not stressing yourself out for their approval. What it all boils down to is, "everyone's not meant to be your friend!" Embrace the loyal, positive, fun ones you have and leave the dry ones thirsty for attention. Trust me, once they see you aren't as active with them,they will then try to do things to bond with you. Then maybe they will began to like you on their own.

2.Taking on more than you can handle, and knowing it. Are you that "yes" person who just doesn't know how to say no or maybe without feeling you've let someone down? I used to be that person, but not anymore. If you want to appear on top of everything to the point you take on everything, eventually the stress will catch up with you and you will crash and burn. Can I say be productive, but keep it balanced in your life? Don't worry if you can't get to it, someone will. Even though you may be excellent at what you do, you are not captain savior and there is only so much you should truly say you can do. Even with friends, if you usually come to events and this time you can't make it or don't feel like it, just say it.This gives you time to change your mind should you decide to go anyway, instead of feeling obligated to go because you promised weeks ago. Then your appearance will be a pleasant surprise. And you can say "I" decided to come, had a little extra time.

3.If you're happy great,if you're not happy find things to brighten your day. Walking around trying to fake it can become a huge burden on your shoulders. If you are miserable you can only hide it so long before the horns start to pop up and you find yourself snapping on that person at work who only asked you where the printer paper is kept. People don't think this really works, but breathing in and out really slow can relieve tension. Breath in through your nose and out through your mouth. Go ahead try it! Hmmmm feels good doesn't it? Try meditating on what you feel maybe making you unhappy and work on it. If it's money problems ask a friend for a loan, you'll be surprised how many people are willing to jump in for a friend in need, even if you didn't want to have to ask. Go stand outside and just look at the trees as they wave at you, look at the sky and how pretty it is. Smile and think of good things you have done for someone. What ever you do find out the source of your misery and work towards healing. You will be surprised at how many therapist and experts have blogs and articles that fit issues that may cause unhappiness. Google search and read your way to self improvement. Trust me, this will make you happy.


4.Saying things you don't really mean. If you say something mean it. If not you will then have to explain why you said it in the first place. Example, if someone asks you if you like key lime pie and you say yes it's good. Then two days later they show up all excited with a fresh key lime pie for you and you say," Nice, but I don't really care for key lime pie." How do you explain that? How do you think that would make someone feel, even you? Say what you mean and mean what you say.

The good I see in this is making positive change in not only your life, but others as well. When you feel well, everyone you come in contact with has a better chance of feeling well too.There are many things that cause unhappiness or misery that you can control, you just have to start doing it. I would share more, but I have to get ready for work. Besides, I don't need the stress of being late for no real reason. Good day and I hope this article sheds some light. Thanks for visiting.

Tinzley Bradford

Today I gave kudos to three women with a cause...

Today while on Twitter, I noticed a tweet from twitter user who I follow "@Bethebutterfly." It was titled " 3 Inspiring Women Who Are Helping To Heal The Planet http://www.ecosalon.com/3-inspiring-women-who-are-helping-to-heal-the-planet/ 

I enjoy knowing and reading about people who inspire others so I immediately visited the link she provided. When I read the article, I felt like I'd been re-born. I felt like for a few minutes the nation was a place free of pollution, and everyone was on the same page, and change was being made in millions of peoples lives all because these three women chose to use their lives to make a difference.

I thought about how brave this is of them and how if only we all chose our lives to make a difference in the lives of millions, what a world this would be. I know it's tough trying to figure out that" thing" you do so well, that "difference" you hold the key to making. Trying to figure out what it is you can do to contribute. Can I say just reading about others is a huge start. Sharing the great things others do with your friends and family,spreading the word every chance you get is a huge start to change.

Just think about the millions who will read about these women and other people just like them.

These three women in the article I read aren't the first who have chose this route in their lives and I'm sure they won't be the last, but let their lives inspire yours, then you can take baby steps towards positive change. and realize what that "thing" is you were meant to do.There's a reason for everything, you have a purpose; try to figure it out.

Tinzley Bradford