Saturday, July 17, 2010
The Art of Confidence (my views)
I have come to realize that in today's world and probably yesterdays world too, one must have confidence in themselves and their abilities. There is so much you can do that you probably don't even know about. When you have confidence in yourself, there is a bit of an art to it. You can't be arrogant, you shouldn't be cocky, you should just know your worth and have the ability to sell that worth to others. ( Shouldn't be hard to do )
Ask yourself, what are you good at? What are you passionate about? What do you want to do? Why do you want to do it? What are you driven or motivated by? Then take all these questions, answer them and pull from there. This is the art of confidence. According to Websters, confidence means "assurance: freedom from doubt; belief in yourself and your abilities." How do you gain and keep it?
1.Well first you must empower yourself to have it. Tell your self there's nothing you can't do, but be realistic of coarse. If you can't do a back bend, a head stand, ending in a split, I don't suggest you attempt to or tell people that you can. That wouldn't be confidence, that would just be stupidity. (Not to mention the doctors bill you would accrue behind such an attempt!) What I mean is just having a can do, go get it, upbeat spirit, that is displayed in your demeanor. That's confidence.
2. Show your abilities through actions. Have you ever met that person who just talks, talks, and talks more about how great they are at something and how they can do this and that if just given a chance; yet you have seen no physical proof? Well it's nice to feel this way, but what actions have you taken to show this ability? It doesn't just have to be in your work place. What about things you do outside of your job that everyone has the ability to see and possibly remember you for those talents? If you talk the game, allow people to see how well you play it.
3.Do your homework. What have other confident, successful, and smart people done that lead them to their big break? I tell people all the time, do a Google, Bing, Yahoo, Ask Jeeves, whatever search, and ask questions about your interest and you can get a slew of very helpful answers. For example, if I want to know more about marketing myself or my product, I wouldn't just go next door and ask my neighbor. I would do an online search about ways this can be done. This allows you to gather as much information as you can and builds your confidence in finding ways to do it.
4. Don't let the stumbling blocks make you lose it. Life will happen, there will be disappointments and people may not believe in you no matter how well you have proven yourself. This can be very disheartening I know first hand, but the good thing is YOU know you can do this! ( where's that confidence?) Don't let feelings of failure and let down cause you to lose your confidence. I tell people all the time," If you don't get it in the washing, get it in the rinsing." I don't know who to quote for that; but I swear by it. Trust me the right people who matter will see you; just find a different way or approach to what you're doing and keep on doing it anyway. Just because they didn't select or choose you doesn't mean someone else won't see your value. It will pay off, keep confidence alive!
5. Finally, Surround yourself with like minded people who get it. If you want to learn more about writing or social media, hanging around people passionate about nothing more than eating and sleeping probably won't keep you inspired. Hook up with and begin to mingle more with people who write or who are social media geeks, with a loyal following and a pretty descent track record to show for it. Ask questions, collaborate with them, and just have fun being involved and around what you love.Sooner or later you will begin to see a bit of a buzz and a demand for you and what you're doing. This plays a huge part in building your confidence and most of all keeping it.
Confidence is like a fine piece of art sitting over your mantle, while it may have the ability to bring you wealth; the beauty of it is priceless! (Tinzley)
I included a link to some other great confidence blogs on "Net Worked Blogs about confidence" take a visit, very nice sights http://www.networkedblogs.com/topic/Confidence/